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Leaving verbally abusive partner

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User446688 · 27/06/2017 19:55

I need some advice and just someone to tell me I'll be ok.....
So this is one of many times but today I came in from taking my little one (5weeks old) to meet my friend for tea came back in and my partner had work and was going to leave in 30 mins.....baby needed a bottle so I made the bottle and gave it to my partner his response "look at your mam trying to pass it onto me" erm no your son needs feeding that's it....anyway he gave me my son and I fed him and a conversation led to him calling me a dog then laughing.....don't get me wrong we have a laugh but he always takes it too far, the other week I was a thick bitch....anyway I've gone over and over how it is unacceptable to talk to your partner let alone anyone like that. He says I need to grow some balls and I'm miserable also I'm bi polar and I'm a weirdo and a psycho for being unhappy when he calls me these things.

Anyway today he called me a dog and I visible was gutted and he was like why the upside down frown your a weirdo you a psychopath....I said it's because you called me a dog doyou not get that?!? He said I'm paying for you to get your car done and I said I don't care about paying for stuff I care about how you talk to me he then called me so ungrateful etc.

He went to work and left I sent him a text saying I was going to stay at my mam with the 2 children, he rang me to which I was busy and then text "you can do what you want"

I mean what does that even say? I literally am sick of the put downs and he wants to belittle me in a joking manor when he knows I don't find it acceptable time and time again. I've already split up with him once for punching doors and other verbal abuse....

He said the other night when he spoke to me like rubbish that I made him unhappy....? And I was to move out with the two kids....even writing this down says it all he probably has someone else and that's why he just can't care.....

I just need advice I don't know whether to look for a council house or something. Please help

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redcaryellowcar · 27/06/2017 19:59

You need to ensure you and your children are safe first, I'm sure more experienced people will come along without detailed advice, but I think if staying at your mums is possible and safe I would do that for now. I believe women's aid are supportive and will give you advice on what to do next. Your health visitor would be able to advise too, I would imagine.
You are absolutely right, he should not be speaking to you like this.

Deathbycupcake · 27/06/2017 23:02

Red car is right mention to health visitor.... also make sure you keep all of the texts/emails anything written he has sent you in case it it needed in the future for proof. My health visitor with my boy was very thorough about our separation and it happened months before he was even born and actually fairly amicably!! Personally speaking I would take little one with you to your mums and go from there at least you are around other people there and are safe and will have some time to think things through xxx

redcaryellowcar · 28/06/2017 19:10

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