Missing

[Vjl17]

Hi my 5 yr old has just disclosed to me this morning that whilst with her dad this weekend (he had a new gf there of 2 months and her children) that he lost her on the beach. I've mentioned this to him in a phone call to see what he had to say and he has kicked off and blocked me on messaging, whivh i half expected. There is a court order I place for contact every other weekend and a week in the summer hols. Things got very nasty in court and I really don't want to go through all that again. I've contacted RNLI and they are looking into weather they have any records of this. He's saying our daughter is lying (pretty big thing for a 5 year old to make up in my eyes) what are your suggestions please. Thanks in advance

There is obviously a lot of history here but under normal circumstances, I think it's difficult to gauge what a 5 yr old thinks of as missing. 2 mins of not seeing a familiar face can seem like hours.

She said she had to tell a man on the beach she couldn't find her daddy he then took her to the life guard whonadked what he was called what he was wearing etc and that her dad was in a hut talking to a lifeguard

So her Dad was already looking for her at the time that this man took her to the lifeguard?

Yes presumably, just so worried for her safety he was supposed to be giving her antihismines for her allergic reaction she was off school on Friday with he hasn't given her any of it as I sent a new bottle it hasn't been opened. She came home with sun burn too 🙁

I lost dd1 on the beach when she was 5. It was utterly terrifying even though it was for about 5 minutes. I thought she'd drowned and I was traumatised by it for a long time. I'm a v responsible parent otherwise. It sounds like he acted straight away too.

The anti hists are a different matter

It's more the fact he's saying our daughter is lying to be honest if I'd lost her I'd have phoned him to let him know but I've had nothing 😐

This all sounds as though it's building up to a picture of neglect. Losing a child happens (I've done it, took 20 minutes and the police to find her). Not giving medicine though is very serious. Did you supply written instructions with the medicine?

Yeah we use a communication book as requested by court, she has other medication that she needs on a daily basis that she tells me he never gives her. Yeah i understand children become lost etc but to make out as though our daughter is lying really breaks me she's such a sweet caring little girl and I just see this as something she wouldn't make up. I mentioned it to her again after school and she told me the exact same thing word for word, nothing missing or added to the story

Keep a diary of events make a log of all meds not given as well.

Then speak to your gp about it too you need people in authority to be on side this sounds really serious the not giving meds and making your child out to be lying is so nasty.

I've been down the route of gp, health visitor in the passed he got a slap the wrist in court and told he must give her it although this isn't included in the court order, I'm guessing because it's common sense lol. I keep a diary let's just say a lesson learnt very well as to regards to that