Ex introduced abuive OH to kids

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Ex is an abusive drunk. Been split up for 9 years. There is court order in place for him to see kids. He introduced his OH to kids today. They have been together for 3 months. OH was swearing, telling kids they were rubbish at things. Calling my Ex a t*t for playing with kids. OH said my kids were fat and lazy (not true). They both told my kids not to tell me they had met OH.
1 month ago I made it clear to my Ex, in no uncertain terms, OH is not to meet my kids until they have been together for 6 months at least.
Ex's new OH is not the type of person I want round my kids.
What can I do? Can I apply for amendment of court order?
Kids are over 8.

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What are the stipulations on your court order? Is there anything that applys to partners?

Court order is about contact. Days and times. Nothing about partners.

That's awful no advice but for you.

When is the court order from? When do children get to start dictating who they see?

Thank you BabyLedWhining.

Started in Sept 16 in contact centre. Then last 4 weeks out of centre.

Do you think the new OH doesn't want your Ex seeing the kids? Do you want contact? If not why not try coming up with an excuse and see if your ex simply backs off seeing them?

Contact your solicitor and ask them what you can do.

Is the abuse from your ex documented?

In your shoes I would push for supervised visitation where your ex can see the children but under the supervision of a social worker or therapist. My husband volunteers for an organization who does this (not in the UK). One partner drops the children off at one door of the center where they are met by the social worker. The children are taken to a room where they can play with the other parent and the visit is recorded visual and audio with the social worker observing from outside the room. You would not have to even see your ex, and the children would spend time with him without worrying about him becoming abusive.

I think your best option would be contacting solicitor (most do half hour free) type everything up before you go to save time.

The fact he's told your child to keep quiet about it is worrying

Ex has been pushing for kids to meet her for a month now. I think they both like the idea of being a little family but neither have a clue how to behave around young kids.

TheMysterious. Yes abuse is documented.
I will definitely get advice on Monday from solicitor ConConstance. Will need to find one as I self represented in court.

Citizens advice will have a list of who offers certain amount for free. Good luck!