How to build your confidence?

[MissKST]

I was just wondering if anyone has any tips on how to feel a bit better about yourself, or just a bit more human! I recently moved back in with my parents I'm in my late 20's and went through a horrific break up, at the end of which I spent some time in hospital then moved home to my parents, I still have quite a few healing injuries on my face and neck, so I'm still not 100% about socialising, my DD is 3. I work full time then go home do her bath/bed routine. Then I sit and dwell and get deeper into my spiral of depression. I've lost all my friends,as they were mutual friends and I had to leave and cut everyone off. I feel maybe a hobby would be good? But I just don't know what I like. I don't really know what advice I want, just craving feeling like me again.

Well, though you moved back in with your parents, you can never 'go back' so to speak, only forward. I'd avoid a situ where it's like you never left, same posters, decor on walls and stuff but the bad experience hangs over you nonetheless, so you can't go forward and can't go back either.

It sounds like you've been through a lot so really give yourself a break, it sounds like you're in a better situation now than you were. I guess this sounds trite but if you lose yourself in a really good book before bedtime, that can help you to not dwell. Also physical activity at weekends such as long vigorous walks. 10 min run in morning after coffee but before breakfast? You can't win arguments with the past however, so I'd avoid that if possible. Easier said than done however, I know.

Sorry to hear all this has happened. It must be hard at the moment.

I split with my ex a while back. We're married and this is the second time we separated. The first separation was horrific and I didn't want to go through that again. So, I decided to do some work on myself. I found various books helpful including Nathaniel Branden's How to raise your self esteem, a Paul McKenna one and another the name of which escapes me. All have helped me appreciate how low my self esteem was to have put up with so much crap for so long and take steps to avoid making the same mistake again.

Definitely get out, even if it's just with someone from work for a coffee.

Good luck OP it really sounds like you've been through the mill.

Thank you both for the replies Newspaper, i actually have a lovely set of parents and they did my old bedroom up for my and created a lovely new 'blank canvas' for us to move back to, currently sharing a room with DD but don't mind that at all! I've joined the gym too just haven't managed to push myself to go just yet, I have a lot of knife attack scars on my torso and neck so it's too big of a challenge ATM. May go for evening jogs though for now, will give that a try! Used to love reading but haven't for so long I may look into your recommendations (Notsandwiches) x