If you chose to leave when did you know?

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Not in a great place and it keeps happening. I have two lovely young DS but feel lonely and am very unhappy. When did you know it was time to go?

It took a very long time.

My ex was /is a gambler and the distrust grew and grew and it affected everything very badly. I knew he was ill but he was doing nothing to help himself. I kept questioning myself repeatedly but it eventually came out in a big rant. It actually took a further 10 months to find somewhere to move and leave with my DS.

mine was an abusive relationship. i got rid when it hit me that he was either going to kill me or push me to kill myself. it was then i knew i was done

We had started the divorce path but i was still torn as to whether or not i should carry on, desperately unhappy about splittig the family apart.

I went to stay with family over new year. Came home a couple of hours before he did, and the moment he walked through the door demanding that I move my car off the drive so that he could park his there, I knew.

I ask myself this.....my H has slapped me, kicked me, choked me, stood on my neck, pushed me over. He's called me vile names, he's cold and moody, said he regrets starting a family with me, called the police on me when I snap, and when he leaves me for days on end I'm the one begging him to come back. I know what I need to do but I'm terrified of being on my own and always think back of the few good times we've had. Jeeze, reading this back sounds horrendous. Why can't I leave? I'd probably be fine single and much more confident in myself.

I'm the same. I don't love him I don't fancy him I don't respect him.

I fantasize about him leaving me.
Why don't I ask him to leave? Wtf is wrong with me.

He threw me out when I was pregnant but begged for me to go back and I did. Two weeks in I knew it was the wrong decision, but it took until the baby was here and he treated baby badly that I could do it.