New baby fighting with father

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I have just had a baby girl via section the father and I haven't seen eachother since I was 35 weeks pregnant when she was born I had demands to let him see her bearing in mind I've just got out of threatre I let him of course as it's her dad he stayed for a while then left I then gets a text saying I want to see her again so I said ok pop up in the morning before I go home he then texted bk with demands of seeing her when I get home I said I've just had her and haven't thought about it but of course u r her dad u will see here he the tells me who can go near her who can't I told him he has no rights in telling me who I let in my house etc. He then turns nasty and had ago I told him until he can act like an adult for our daughter then not to bother contacting he said u won't get no money from me and I shall take u to court it's really depressing me as I've tried my best I haven't stopped him but now he's blocked me so can't even contact him. She hasn't even been registered yet I don't know what to do it's meant to be a happy time but all I seem to do is sit there and cry any advice do I put her in his name ? Without him there I can't put him on the certificate ??? Do I keep trying or just leave it and get on with it ? This is my 4 th child 1st with him my other kids don't see their dad but I always make sure they don't forget him and when he contacts I let them talk to him as I believe it's their chose but cause she is so tiny 5 days old I don't know what to do

It's him that should feel guilty not you.

Her name can always be changed at a later date. He can go with you to add his name to the certificate at any point and if he does get involved her name can be changed by deed poll to his easily.

If he won't attend the register office then you'll end up with no father named on the certificate but his name as her surname. Which to me wouldn't be ok.

Register her without him. He has threatened you and threatened to let his child go without out of spite. Keep him away from both of you until you get legal contact and support payments in place.

Give your child your name. She's your baby, you'll be raising her, she should have your name. It doesn't matter what he thinks at this point; he has treated you both badly, and he doesn't get a vote.

Doesn't sound like stellar father material. I'm sorry you picked him, but you have a chance now to limit the damage. She may well be better off without him.

Having your surname doesn't mean he couldn't be in her life! She deserves the surname of the parent who's actually loving and looking after her in my opinion and yes if you wanted to change it or add him in the future it's entirely possible!

If he goes to court, he can have his name added to her birth certificate at a later date.

You've tried to contact him and he can't be contacted. Save your energy for your kids. Give her your name and enjoy your baby.

The ball is in his court- he can either continue sulking and stay away or grow the fuck up and negotiate with you.