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Do you plan Mother's Day for yourself?

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Earlybird · 07/03/2007 06:22

Mother's Day is around the corner, and I imagine most dh/dp are making plans to make a fuss of their dw/dp - whether it is gifts, flowers, big meal at home/meal out, special activities, etc.

For those of us who are single: do you plan your own Mother's Day? I know dd is making something at school. But, I wonder if I should give her a small amount of money and send her out shopping with an adult friend to get something for me - so she understands the concept of shopping/planning for someone else.

Also wondering if I should make plans for us on the day. I think it could be far to easy to drift into feeling down/unloved/alone if we do nothing. But if we go out, or go to lunch somewhere will that end up being depressing as we're surrounded by happy families...which could highlight the fact that I'm unattached (which I'm ok about most of the time).

I realise that Mother's Day (and birthdays) have the potential to be wonderful or upsetting, so think I'd be best to plan my own 'special day'. What do the rest of you do?

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SHOSHAlee · 07/03/2007 06:29

Ho old is DD, I had alovely Mothers Day when Ds was 4, (yes I planned it) laid out the night before brad butter and marmite, cup of juice, Ds got up and butter ed the bread, and marmite (and the floor table etc) and brought it to me in bed.

Later on he put the Fish pie I had made the day before in the oven and helped switch it on. Throughout the day he did lots of thinns like that, did what ever I asked him, (we had talked about thatthe loveliest thing for mothers day was a day that I didnt have to tell him off all day)

The day before I had put him in the kitchen with a Huge piece of card and load of things to stick on it and let him get on with it. It was on our kitchen wall for ever!

It was so lovely cos we just spemt ittogether with no strife and he was so proud of himself 'making' mummies breakfast

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Earlybird · 07/03/2007 06:45

Those are lovely ideas, and it does sound as if you had a very good day. As mums we spend so much time thinking/planning for our dc that I do think it's important to set up situations where they can think/plan something special for us.

DD has just turned 6, btw.

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Hattiecat · 07/03/2007 07:03

my dd1 school has a mother's day sale where they sell stuff from 50p to 2.50 - the kids go during friday afternoon, buy, its all gift wrapped so peeping my mums when they pick up and then my dd always presents me with a little gift she has bought (and is very proud of the fact she has bought it), she really feels like she owns the whole thing - its lovely!

fairyfly · 07/03/2007 07:39

Just treat it like a day when you come first and don't do anything your kids want you to do. I am refusing to pander to their needs that day. All decisions will be selfish. I shall watch what i want, go where i want and probably not get out of bed all morning.

I know what you mean about going out for dinner if you are in that frame of mind where you want to pour water over happy families heads. Why don't you get a take away? I might order a book off Amazon, that always feels like a suprise.

I might even get a mini bottle of Champagne and toast myself for being so amazing

glitterfairy · 07/03/2007 08:21

Hello fairyfly how are you?

My kids take over for the day usually and do breakfast and stop me doing anything at all. They make things for me all day and spend their time being very very good and suggesting interesting ways for me to relax (which obviously fit into their schedules ).

Things like this are so much better without X who used to infuriate me by always forgetting and would usually slip out for his card at lunch time.

Bozza · 07/03/2007 08:33

I think you should arrange a special day of pampering treats for the two of you and no housework. Maybe get some special food in from M&S, or as fairyfly suggests, a takeaway. Or, if your DD is old enough to appreciate it you could go shopping together, something like that.

pianist · 07/03/2007 09:03

Earlybird - please don't think that having a dh/dp means that they are busy organising something for mother's day! If I want to go out to lunch or something, I have to plan it myself.

Bozza · 07/03/2007 09:06

at pianist. DH says that we are not going out because it will be too busy. Well thanks for making that decision for me, darling, are you now going to offer to cook? No I thought not.

nikkie · 07/03/2007 12:43

Last year I got woken up by breakfast in bed!
Dds were 4 and 6 and they had gone down stairs made a bowl of rice crispies and a glass of orange juice and carried it upstairs to me! I was finding rice crispies for weeks
This year they are at their Dads as dd2 has a party on the Saturday and can't go to Dads then.

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Earlybird · 07/03/2007 12:45

nikkie - lol about breakfast! Sweet dd asked this morning if I'd like her to 'make' some pain au chocolate for breakfast on Mother's Day!

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Sheila · 07/03/2007 14:14

My mum is staying with us that weekend so I suspect I'll be pampering her all day. And no I'm not resentful at all, no, not a bit

fairyfly · 08/03/2007 17:06

I'm good glitterfairy, are you still in town?

mrsmcv · 27/03/2007 00:07

had the most lovely mother's day, though was dreading it as first one and am divorcing dd's father. Brother came round to take me for breakfast and cousin supplied special tea. Had 9 mother's day cards and friend babysat for mother's day night out.

all very surprising. had expected to be alone with tiny baby so had made special dinner for myself and bought flowers and cards from daughter.

All in all, lovely day.

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