I am so sick of sitting here alone night after night after night

[NuttyMuffins]

It's borrrrrrring and so lonely

Nutty. Are you on your own then? Permanently?

Well of a night I am yeah, once the kids go to bed thats it. Am sick of my own company, find myself ringing people for no particular reason just so I can chat to someone.

Know what you mean and I've only been alone for two weeks - hate to think what it's like all the time. Friends of mine who are lone parents do weekend sleepovers where the kids and mums stay in the same house overnight so the mums can chat/have a drink without having to get babysitters. Sorry you're feeling low xx

That sounds great steinermum. Unfortunatly I don't know any other single mums though.

Don't get me wrong, sometimes it's great to know that I can please myself, watch what I like etc but every now and then it would just be nice to sit down and watch tv with someone, even if they didn't speak LOL.

It's very tough nutty because presumably you've got sleeping kids so you can't do the thing that most people do when they crave company - get out.
It must be pretty relentless on your own at times. Do you get a break? Anyone to babysit?

I say that, I know full well I don't go out. I save babysitters these days for weddings and funerals as they're such a precious commodity.

We're here though nutty.

I was thinking the exact same thing the other night. i'm so fed up of being sat here night after night!
I find myself talking to myself.
Its hell!

I don't know any single parents either.

Ive even kept kids up late sometimes just for company.

I do that somtimes tortoise, last sat night they stayed up until 10pm which is unheard of for them.

I don't get out at all really. My mum will babysit but no one wants to go out with me. Arrangements tend to get made and then friends (i use that term loosly) drop me.

I really really cannot remember that last time I went out.

Was supposed to go to an ann summers party this weekend but the girl told me it was Sat night and so i booked my mum to babysit and then it turned out it was Friday night and my mum was working nights so I had to cancel.

I'm not on my own but steinermums idea would still work with friends who arent on their own, wouldn't it?

Its mainly when DS's are here. They were up till about 10.30 last night.

I never go out unless DC are with me!

Boring isn't it?!

It could yeah malaceche but all of my friends work or are at uni and have lives basically and so trying to organise something is a nightmare and they tend to back out in favour of more exciting stuff.

I sometimes go to bed early just to escape the boredom.

I'm sure youve thought of this already but maybe there's a single parents group in your town which could yield some more sympathetic friends. My mum was a single parent to 4 of us, i dont know what she did to manage at the time but she still lives alone and i think its a real effort for her keeping up a social life. She's in a 'book group' and hosts the meetings sometimes. Maybe you could do something like that, start or join groups with the same interests and host the meetings at your house once a week on different days? Sorry, not very helpful, just free-wheeling here.....

No they are good ideas, but the problem tends to be that my mum is my babysitter and she works shifts, so i can never comitt to a regular weekly thing as she does different shifts each week.

Hmmm. Is there no-one else who could babysit? Or is it paying them that's the problem?

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Have you got a gingerbread group in your area?
I have. They meet on Sundays ive just not got the courage up to phone up about it! Also its evenings i need company daytime is generally ok.

My Mum has just made me feel a whole lot better! She just said on a text how my sister has booked flights for Aug to visit them. i can't afford to get passports yet and don't know if/when i will be allowed to take DS's out of the country.

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My local college only offers childcare in the daytime unfortunatly and yeah there is just no way I can afford to pay a babysitter at the mo.

My one frind occasionally drops in for coffee but she is a student midwife and is either on placement of with her head buried in a book, she does try to come and have a chat at least once a week though, even if it's only for 5 minutes.

Tortoise - I have the same problem. My dads offered to take me and the kids to France to visit relatives, but I can't get the money together for the passports.

I did join gingerbread but found it quite confusing tbh and never managed to find out if there is a group near to me.

I'm even bored of listening to myself moan lol.

HIya,
just wanted to let oyu know i feel the same!

I actually realsied the other evening it must have been about my 700th evening alone ( anniversary of hub leaving 2 yrs b4)

I couldnot belive it, what had I done all those nights. Mostly nothing, it is crap, i know. I get so bored, and my dd is such a light sleeper.

grrrrrrr.

if u lived near me we could do the sleep over thing.

take care

I'vebeen on my own 5 years and despite having my Mam handy to babysit its only in the past year I hav started going out.Have always felt guilty before about asking as she already looked after them whilst I work.They have both started sleeping at their Dads every month so have that night free too.

hi Nutty

I do steinermum's suggestion - I have a married friend with 2 kids whose husband has a job that takes him away some weekends...so I go & stay & put kids to bed then we order Chinese takeaway....sometimes I stay & other times I pick kids up, pop them in the car & drive home

not sure what else to suggest - it is hard isnt it

you dont like to keep asking for babysitters either

You could use the evenings when you're bored and while kids are so small it's hard to get out to do an Open University course. You can do lots of the work online these days and there are online forums as well as real life tutorials (which should be optional iirc so not essential if you can't get sitters for those), so you can at least vary your online social contact from mumsnet (great as mumsnet is!). Really worth looking at IMO.

Did you start your course Nutty?

crumbs this sounds familiar - i was just thinking that last night, i am so bored!!!!!Every night - just me and the radio times!