I am really worried and am hoping for some advice about this situation.
I'm a single mother and have been for over eight years from being left when I was two months pregnant.
I was seeing a guy for a few years and he wanted to have a child and asked me to come off my pill, I could afford a baby and so could he and I fell pregnant. I told him I was pregnant a few days before Christmas and he told me that he has now realised that his too old to change nappies and ended the relationship. He then put the house up for sale, took all of our things which included my money and moved 50 miles away with a new women 20 years younger then him.
My pregnancy was awful and I was very ill. I kept contact with him by sending texts, email, scan appointments but he didn't turn up and the only reply I received had been abusing me and wishing me and the baby dead.
Once baby came he stopped replying and I kept my phone number for one year and with no phone calls changed it and moved.
He lied to the CSA and told them he didn't know who I was and after confirming he lied and he did know me and about the baby he put all his money in an aunts account and they can't touch it and he has never paid child maintenance in eight years.
I get his older son contacting me as well as him saying I have no rights to keep the child away from him and his seeking parental responsibility through the courts.
This man had sex with a 14 year old girl and there wasn't enough evidence and the girl wouldn't confirm the relationship this relationship lasted six years. This was the " women " he left me for.
He got so drunk once he fourced himself on top if me and raped me, it was so embarrassing and I never told anyone this but I said no because I needed to pee but he carried on, I was shouting no get off and trying very hard but with his weight and pressure of the struggle (I was pregnant too) I wet myself. I was so embarrassed I become extremely ill after and felt such shame I have never had sex or been with a man since this time.
He can't be trusted and everything he tells people are all lies. He can't just decide after eight years he wants to take the child. I feel like I'm still living this nightmare and I feel so hopeless.
Can he do this?
How can I stop him seeing my child?
If you adopt your child you can't turn up eight years later and decide you want them now, I need to protect my child from this monster.