CMS collect and pay

[skye33]

My ex has been paying maintenance band C for our DD( having her 12 nights per month ) through direct pay CMS so I know that is a positive thing but we live 2 half hours drive from each other now. He is claiming it should stay as Band C meaning he has her for 12 nights every month reality is he has her 2 nights per month half terms and half holidays which works out as 85 nights a year band A. I contacted the CMS about this change and he has gone ballistic ( we have a very acrimonious relationship ) abusive texts phone calls etc. He refuses to pay any more and it racking up arrears so will go to collect pay he says he won't pay any more and they can take him to court. Does anyone know if the collect and pay method works ? Anyone had any success with it as so far my experience with the CMS has been awful. They ve told me that it will take 3 months to get the correct amount from him through attachment to earnings and he has told me he will leave his job if I go through with the collect and pay. He s said this the whole time as hates giving me anything despite earning a very decent salary. I just can't deal with the abusive texts / calls from him all the time so need the CMS to deal with it but do t have much faith as imagine there are numerous ways he can dodge paying it even through collect and pay ?

My advice would be any contact about maintenance ignore.. The leave jobs is common threat ... If he is on a decent income he can't afford to give it up...

Block him from your phone and allow them to do their job. Its what your daughter is entitled too........

Thanks I did think about blocking him but he calls our daughter on my phone so can't. I'm just trying not to engage with him at all but sending him a breakdown and an explanation of what child maintenance and where his money would be going and point out it certainly isn't funding an extravagent lifestyle for us by any means... Am worried he will give up his job as he keeps saying it and think he has something up his sleeve. My main thing is the fact that he just keeps saying see you in court let's take it to court etc and I don't see why I would have to go to court I just want him to pay what he should be as defined by CMS. He is the one that leads a very extravagent lifestyle and that is why he saying he can't skate any extra money for upkeep of his daughter.

Spare any money

Can you get your daughter a cheap PAYG phone and only turn it on at specified calling times, and block his texts on that phone too?

I agree PAYG phone...Doesn't go out the house..Tell him you have changed number then block him on old phone then you can deal when suits and keep on during his contact.

Do not send him a breakdown..This is about a form of control.. He will be seeing ways you can cut money..No matter what he has to pay he will think you could have your hair done less often., eat less brand foods, some way he will have a say.. He doesn't he has to pay leagal minimum..

If you saved every penny he sent in trust it would still be none of his business.

Pay as you go phone is a good idea actually. He is controlling and the break down of exact costs is a prime example. To be honest if he hadn't been so nasty I prob would have agreed to a lesser amount without collect and pay but telling me I won't get a penny he quitting his job etc etc had just made me realise we can't communicate and the CSM need to deal with it. I didn't want it to go to collect and pay I just assumed wrongly that he would pay what he should through direct pay.