ex MIL lied to me about where DD was sleeping

[NancyPiecrust]

My DD is not supposed to have unsupervised contact with her Dad at the moment following an incident 6 weeks ago - it has not been formalised legally but SS, HV and Child Psychotherapist agreed / told me this was the best thing for DD and that she should not be put at risk by being in sole care of her Dad.

But just found out that my ex's Mum lied to me... She made me believe she was having DD at her house for a sleepover last night, said she was looking forward to it & acted all excited when I dropped DD off at hers at 5pm... And then took her round to DD's Dad's house to sleep over there. Completely breaking our arrangement & complete deception. I cannot trust her anymore 😭 How can she continue to be the unsupervised contact person???? DD's Dad says that his Mum slept over at his house too.. But Joe can I believe that? I'm sure she wouldn't have slept on the sofa ! She lives 10mins down the road. He sent me a screenshot of a text message exchange with her - him saying he was on his way home & her saying it was all quiet and she was reading a book in his bed, at 10.30pm...but all that proves is that she babysat for him.
I just am so furious that she has pretended to me that DD was staying at hers with a smile.... As per our arrangement.. And then she has gone behind my back. Unforgivable.
I don't know what I'm supposed to do now ! Should I file for a contact order ?

Don't allow mil to have your DD unsupervised. You will never be able to trust her again.

Are you the poster who wants to move back to be with family?

Just move.

She has broken your trust and put your daughter at risk. There would be no coming back from that for me.
Do what you have to do to keep your daughter safe

I would not be allowing unsupervised contact with either of them now until this issue is completely resolved.

It's understandable that she can't imagine her son posing a risk to his child but unfortunately you clearly can and you're her mum.

Could he have slept in the settee and his mother in his bed?

(Not saying at all that that makes it okay though)

TyneTeas yes maybe... But the fact they did it without telling me first & that she deceived me to make it look like she was having DD overnight at his house is unforgivable to be honest. I can't know for sure either way if she did stay with him or she didn't but either way she has lied & deceived me & lied about which house and with whom my daughter was sleeping, in the midst of a very delicate situation.... Horrendous.
I am moving.. Just waiting for a house to be accepted by agents .. Fingers crossed. DD has place in nursery.. I have offer of work...I will be more supported.. But what shall I do about contact with her Dad? I don't want her to not be able to see him at all. :-(

I just found there is a contact centre near where I'm moving.. Very near. But he will be devastated & hit the roof. But have to not think about his feelings tbh. It's DD that was hurt by his actions.. And put at risk by his temper which he won't address and denies.... I've given him so many chances to make this right. I can't anymore.

Just devastated for DD too as she loves her Nanny so much. I don't know why exMIL would jeopardise her relationship with me and therefore DD just so her son could have DD overnight.. Just to defy me. So so sad.

My exMIl used to supervise access with my DS and her DS. I was gutted that in the end she could not prioritise her grandson who was a toddler over her DS...

If you can't trust her restrict access.