Son due in days should I contact his dad?

[Allovertheplace94]

Really don't know what to do with this situation his dad is an absolute dick. Awful relationship cheated on me stole money still has all my furniture in his house where his new girlfriend lives with him. He begged me to have an abortion for weeks last time I seen him in May he said he wants a DNA test. Hes blocked my number and Facebook and email address everything so have no way of contacting him directly. I have my ex's dad on Facebook but I don't really want to be chasing him and his family down to be honest. Would I be an awful mother for not bothering? I've gone this long now going through pregnancy alone and the huge financial strain what is the point. He knows when my due date is surely it's up to him if he wants to make contact or not.

I agree with sunflower, once you and baby are settled you will be in a better frame of mind and can then make decisions of how you want to proceed.

My own personal thing for you to consider (and look at this and other sites) is that sometimes when you involve the father (his family) it causes you more damage/hassle than it's worth... having continual fights over access and money is tiring.... no matter how much you try to do the right thing...

You need to make sure you and baby are ok first and foremost.... everything else can wait.... good luck.. :-)

Hey OP,

I am in exactly the same boat as you are, I'm due in April & me and DP have split.

He's blocked me on pretty much everything & said he's changing his number, I am not contacting him when our son arrives, I am not running around trying to locate him to let him know! If he was bothered then he'd make sure I could contact him along the way! However he is currently tucked up in bed with another woman (yep, he cheated!) and happy as Larry!
Well for my baby's sake and mine, he will not be informed, not even by CSA as I won't be claiming a penny!

Good luck! Xx

Hey Midnight!
I agree I have decided not to bother contacting him I'm sure he will eventually stalk my social media and see photos but I will claim CSA. Why aren't you claiming? I wasn't going to bother in the beginning but my son was planned I didn't make the baby alone so really he should contribute.

Xx

I changed my name so don't be confused lol xx

Think to leaving your beautiful baby with that man possibly overnight , if you get in contact you may just get what you want ! Leave alone is my advice if he was awful to u he's likely to be to your beautiful baby x

Hope you're doing well and that you have t contacted him about the baby being born.
His actions speak loudly, ie changing his number. You know that saying - when someone tells you who they are then listen? Well he's telling you who he is, listen and forget he even existed.
You deserve better. Your baby deserves better. Enjoy your baby, live your life with your head held high and have nothing to do with the waste of space.

*have not contacted him

How are you doing OP?