Why were people giving dirty looks at me and pram

[ilovemyCheebie]

Had not nice looks my way just today, looking at my daughter and me. We went to London for her first visit. DD was quiet, chilled in her pram, dressed pretty, clean an fresh. I dress modestly. I had people looking at me then my daughter in a weird way!

Can't work out if it's a "young single mum thing"?... I know people like to judge... I'm young but look older. I recently broke up with my partner and I notice that other people around me with prams are all with their partners. I met up with my brother there briefly, he was walking behind me at one point and noticed it. Even a group of people in front were looking behind jointly at me and my LO and giving me bad looks!... It felt uncomfortable. This is the only photo I took of us today it's a bit blurry, just can't work it out. Made me feel a bit insecure

If someone was pushing a chariot of a pram down oxford Street and by the London Eye...amd catching ankles, Id lool over my shoulder and give her a look

Other than than London is just SO heaving with people it's rare to notice anyone.

Queen Liz

*Thinking that people were staring at her and glaring at her a) because she is a single mother, b) young and c) jealous of her looks.....including me.

I have honestly never witnessed such vain glorious self flattery undertaken with a straight face.*

Trying for your jealousy? I don't know who you are...? You must know about vain glory, having that mindset ... With a screen name like queenLiz

Yes, there was a lot of dawdling around with the pram. I get it now, my bad, I've mentioned this twice already.. I misread some miserable looks, Im by myself as a mum for my first time and I've had young mum comments before which were incredibly nasty and made me feel insecure for quite some time. I don't know why I'd be concerned whether "QueenLiz" is jealous, I don't know who you are. If you feel like that, you're just loopy

Erm...I can't actually see a photo!

I can't see one either! People being annoyed by the pram was my first thought too though.

Photo?

I can't see a photo but nobody would know that you're a single mum just be looking at you. I go all over the place on my own with dd all the time and I look young for my age. People usually look in a "aww cute baby(well now toddler) kind of way, or get annoyed about the pram.

There was a photo of an ordinary looking female and a child. the picture was apparently the op and as you can read, apparently looked very young. I say apparently as it's possible that at midnight, on a Saturday night beer goggles were at work.

I also cannot work out why Londoners could think she was a single mum unless at every given opportunity she mentioned the fact. Especially as she was with a male. People don't give a shit unless you get in their way.. Or unless you are pushing the buggy, smoking and have a can of tenants or whatever in the drinks holder.

From what the OP's said she lives somewhere rural where people might judge single mums but wouldn't be fussed about big prams & she just didn't realise that London's the other way round, that's all.

when I'm in London, i look at people to work out where they are going next..the bigger things a bit longer eg people with bikes etc, and i look at beautiful people a lot longer than i would somewhere less anonymous.

I suspect you were the latter..especially in the gorgeous Autumn light...

Slightly late to the party but whats with all the anti London stuff? None around the London Eye would have been remotely bothered. Maybe they were just a load of tourists people watching? Maybe they were looking at the Op and wondering why she was giving them funny looks. London can be a perfectly friendly place. The area round Oxford Street is mostly full of tourists or shoppers on a mad dash as is the London Eye. Hardly typical of an average London residential area where plenty of people nod to each other and say hello.

I actually find it more menacing in small towns where groups of teenagers congregate and make you feel uneasy or actual adults who stare at you because you didn't go to school with them and aren't related to someone they know!

How would they know you are a single mum?
Do you wear a badge?

OP, they weren't looking at you. They weren't 'seeing' at all, they were going about their day. You were feeling out of place and self conscious.

I can't see a photo but I'm sure you and your child are beautiful. Trouble is that there is hundreds of other beautiful people walking around London too.

Londoners couldn't care less whether someone's a single mum but they could definitely care less when someone's pushing a big pram along a crowded street.

where is your picture.
I can't see it ,so can't comment on it.

I'm a Londoner and often smile / stare at babies because they're cute. It probably wasn't hostile unless you were getting in people's way or something. Londoners are just normal people getting on with their day! (Plus only a fraction of those in Central London are actual Londoners anyway)