Today I am sad .....

[ninenicknames]

Hands up lone parent from the start here.

DS "Father" no interest from the off.

DS is coming up 3 and I love him more than anything. We have a great life, friends, my family, great balance of work/home life and financially I am "ok"

But today I feel SAD.

Sad that I share not one joyous moment with DS's "Father" he doesn't care, he never has yet I still think how can he not care?

Arghhhhh just one of those days I suppose.

I have tried (not begging!) but in the practical sense for contact but he has ZERO interest. I just hope DS will know I tried, I tried for him.

He'll know. Sounds like he isn't missing out on love X

I'll never understand how some fathers can just block their child out of their lives. At best I think the guilt makes them bury their heads in the sand. But really I haven't got a fucking clue.

My ex is in our baby's life with fortnightly visit. But I gave up long ago trying to share special moments. I would email photos and get nothing back. He says he misses him but won't come more often. It does make me sad too.

Awe its a shame the Dad doesn't want to be involved as every child deserves to have two loving parents in their life, however, life isn't like that :-(

What reason does the Dad give for not wanting to be in his child's life?

He just says he can't.

As PP said, DS is well loved by all my family.

It could depend upon on a lot of things, some men just don't want the responsibility of a child and feel nothing for kids, others may feel that the child is the result of a casual fling and as a result feel no obligation to the child... I understand that but can't understand a father who planned to have a baby with someone and is involved with the pregnancy would not want anything to do with the child they made the choice to make...

I know my comment doesn't really help you in any way, I'm just trying to reason why some men excuse not seeing their child....

Its fab that you have such a great family, I'm sure your child will miss out on nothing as a result of that... good luck :-)

Whenever I have a wobble about such things I think about one of my best mates, he never knew his dad, brought up by his mum completely solo. He's genuinely the nicest kindest well rounded person I know. Not an ounce of self pity over dad situation. He's great.

Thanks again for all your words.

It was a casual fling so I do take full responsibility, equally I'll never understand how you can not want to know your own flesh & blood.

I'll always leave the door open for DS, that's for sure.

The two of us are just fine thou, I just felt very sad yesterday, we had a big week of starting pre school. Uniforms. You know the usual milestones.

My family have been there every step of the way thankfully!

The guilt I sometimes all of the time feel is what gets me I suppose.

Happy Friday!