Do you ever reach a point where you see your ex and genuinely feel nothing for them ???

[benbenandme]

Just wondered if I will ever get to a stage where I can see ex and not feel all messed up??

I am generally feeling pretty positive most of the time now but its just when he drops off ds and "she" is with him, I still hate the thought that someone else is sharing his life and doing things with him and our son

I have made a huge effort recently to keep occupied and this has helped a lot but just now and then it creeps back in and I feel down again ... is it just me ????

Not feel messed up-yes

Not feel anything-no

And that is the way it should be, you can't forget and nor should you want to but in time you come to a comfortable understanding with your feelings and a realisation that you are ok. It takes a long time to learn to be alone again and even more so when there is such a tangible constant reminder.

I think I'm a bit stressed anyway at the moment as I'm currently in the process of moving house and although I am dead excited and its something I really want to do, its also scary as I will need to find a new job and childcare etc.

I know I've moved on loads as 12 months ago I couldn't even consider anything like that and now I'm trying to make plans for our future ... but it still hurts sometimes

I would say that I do genuinely feel nothing for my ex-h. Apart from pity.

We split up 7 years ago and have both re-married, and I feel he is like a stranger now. We don't even know what to say to each other these days (only ever meet when handing dd1 over and arrangements for him to have her are usually made with his wife).

I don't know if it makes a difference that it was my decision to leave, and I am much happier with my current dh than I ever was with my ex.

I don't feel anything for my ex at all, but then he had killed any feelings I had for him before I left really.

I do feel some irritation though, that he now comes home from work early and takes time off at weekends, and spends it with his new girlfriend and the kids. I can't help but feel put out that he is doing the happy family thing that I always wanted, with another woman.

I feel sorry for his new girlfriend, because no doubt she will learn the hard way like I did. I don't envy her at all, I pity her bad luck.

The only feeling I have for my ex is revulsion. He makes my skin crawl. As for his partner, the other woman!, I can't thank her enough. He walked out on me & at the time 2 small children for her, at the time I was devasted, but 7 years down the line, I'm now extremely happy with my life.

Best thing you can do is find a new man for yourself, then you will be surprised how quickly you dont care about him. Make yourself not look in the car and always look stunning when you open the door

I can honestly say I feel only anger at my ex. He never comes and sees his daughter who he still denies is his even tho hes paying maintenance for her. Its sick how he only pays £5 a week for her. fortunatly ive met the most wonderful guy who really helped me push past everythin i did feel n anythin i ever felt has gone in to my daughter whom i love more than anythin. Feel very sorry for the woman he is with now!!!!!!!