Threats over money again!

[MozzchopsThirty]

And it makes me so sad & anxious

Last year exh was told to pay £25 more a month, he threatened me with court and shared care so he 'didn't have to give me a penny'
In the end I agreed for him to keep paying the same amount

Fast forward to this year and he sent me a vile text saying the CMS is just punishment for hard working men who earn good money (he earns about 4 X what I do)
So he wants us to agree a monthly figure where I set out what I spend on the kids, not on housing, petrol or anything else as he doesn't believe he has any responsibility over those things.
Then when I've done that we split it 50/50 and he'll give me that.
One of the reasons I divorced him is that he was controlling and manipulative

I don't ask for anything on top of my maintenance, I work, I'm flexible re days and holidays, and we're amicable about everything apart from money as he really begrudges me it.

This text is causing me such anxiety as I know the threats and arguing will start again

Any advice would be great thanks

No idea why my post is there twice

Best to ignore. Stay strong.

If he has the DC overnight more then 2 nights a week then he gets a maintenance reduction.
He wants the best of both worlds. Less of the physical responsibility and less of the financial responsibility.

My STBXH threatens to go for shared custody (I know it's not called that anymore) but he can't handle them both at the same time.
He is still pushing for individual contact so I just laugh when he threatens as it means sweet FA. It's designed to hurt and control me. Manipulate me Into doing things his way, and I'm managing more and more to put my foot down.
I use mumsnet ALOT to check myself and vent, for support.

Never talk to him in person so he can't threaten you, tell him text or emails only if he tries it

Made him feel like a shit dad? Oh well, if the cap fits!

There's no stigma. At least, there wouldn't be if only some men didn't quibble about supporting their children, making such an organisation necessary in the first place.