Well in the words of Gloria Gaynor!!!

[piaf208]

I will survive - wont I? I've only just discovered mumsnet and I have to say what a relief to read other people's stories ... I've got 3 children and my husband left on 4th December - 5 days before my middle daughter's 6th birthday and two weeks before christmas. I'd only just started a new job and managed to crawl in every day - even though I had no idea where he was for 3 days (he's suffered with depression) and I've just been having to hold it together all round for the kids, for my parents (who can't cope at all with having a single parent daughter - I feel like a cross between old mother hubbard and vicky pollard). Anyway where am I going with this - somebody out there just tell me that it I will be fine.

It'll be fine!

Really.

I am sure you feel very low right now but you get through, you do. Try and treat yourself, when the kids are in bed, quiet bath, read, some chocolate.

Remind yourself you are great (I'm sure you are), and that you deserve better, I don't know what your background is but it is true in most cases! Try and enjoy your children as they are the best thing you have gained from the marriage.

Ignore anyone who is unsupportive and talk to those who are.

And give yourself time, because it is time that really counts.

Anyway, am not a great advice giver so hope I don't sound too patronising.

Also, remember - very cheesy - you really are not alone.

Hi Piaf

Hi & welcome to MN .

You will be absolutely fine and lots on MN to make you laugh & cry....for starters read this one DRY VAG

Hope you enjoyed your bath x

Hi Piaf

you will bwe fine!!

these are hard times for you but they will get better and easier.

glad you've found MN, it keeps me sane on the long nights when dd is in bed and the tv is rubbish!

am too scared to have a bath as a) it might wake dd and b) she might wake and i'd have to jump out and go to her all wet LOL.

my dh also suffers depression, he's gone awol several times the most recent was end Oct 3 days before dd's 1st birthday.

i know where his now but he's not communicating with me much....

it's very hard and i sympathise with you enormously.