It's happened again ex not allowing dd to attend birthday party

[ROZ12]

Hi all

I posted a few weeks ago about a similar issue and I have taken advice and have emailed dad about changing the current court order as not suiting teenage daughter due to several issue see my previous post .

I'm seating reply from dad and eill then take to court of need be .

However party coming up dad sent series of rude messages end result is he will not be a taxi service to take dd to party and he works that day. I asked for swap etc but not agreeing .

My dd won't ask out of fear and we are not going to do the whole defying court order and getting police involved it's too much stress on dd.

Shall I just give up and show all the evidence in court or will ex have good grounds and say I took her to previous one can't take her to all of them?

Advice please

[Canyouforgiveher]

She is 13 and I've offered pick up swap etc and he said no.

He is being such a shortsighted arse.

I find it interesting that your dd doesn't want to take him on. I have 3 very different teens and each one of them would have felt comfortable enough with either me or their dad to have an argument about going to a party rather than sitting at home. She is cowed by him which is awful.

Agree also completely with this from Bertrand

"a normal life part of being a child is also accepting that they can't go to each and every party that comes up if they have prior commitments."

Visiting your parent should not be a prior commitment."

It is only the children of divorced parents who have to forego normal social activities just to see their parent.

OP get a variation if you can. In any case his days are numbered. Is he really going to force access on a 14 year old? At 15/16 she'll be gone and won't look back at him.

[ROZ12]

Actually frusso I give back all his owed nights and he is not budging this time no means no- don't comment on what you don't know.

[Lemonblast]

Her wishes and feelings will absolutely be taken into account by the court at aged 13.
Apply for a variation.

[Marilynsbigsister]

There is absolutely no court in the land who will make 13yr old do visits . Just don't go. Let her go to the party. Tell dad he can go back to court. (His solicitor will explain that he has no hope) . The court order is his to deal with. His to go to court about. It simply won't happen. He is being an arse..

[ROZ12]

A court order is strict so I've heard but thanks for your support.im taking him to court .