It's happened again ex not allowing dd to attend birthday party

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Hi all

I posted a few weeks ago about a similar issue and I have taken advice and have emailed dad about changing the current court order as not suiting teenage daughter due to several issue see my previous post .

I'm seating reply from dad and eill then take to court of need be .

However party coming up dad sent series of rude messages end result is he will not be a taxi service to take dd to party and he works that day. I asked for swap etc but not agreeing .

My dd won't ask out of fear and we are not going to do the whole defying court order and getting police involved it's too much stress on dd.

Shall I just give up and show all the evidence in court or will ex have good grounds and say I took her to previous one can't take her to all of them?

Advice please

She is 13 and I've offered pick up swap etc and he said no.

He is being such a shortsighted arse.

I find it interesting that your dd doesn't want to take him on. I have 3 very different teens and each one of them would have felt comfortable enough with either me or their dad to have an argument about going to a party rather than sitting at home. She is cowed by him which is awful.

Agree also completely with this from Bertrand

"a normal life part of being a child is also accepting that they can't go to each and every party that comes up if they have prior commitments."

Visiting your parent should not be a prior commitment."

It is only the children of divorced parents who have to forego normal social activities just to see their parent.

OP get a variation if you can. In any case his days are numbered. Is he really going to force access on a 14 year old? At 15/16 she'll be gone and won't look back at him.

Actually frusso I give back all his owed nights and he is not budging this time no means no- don't comment on what you don't know.

Her wishes and feelings will absolutely be taken into account by the court at aged 13.
Apply for a variation.

There is absolutely no court in the land who will make 13yr old do visits . Just don't go. Let her go to the party. Tell dad he can go back to court. (His solicitor will explain that he has no hope) . The court order is his to deal with. His to go to court about. It simply won't happen. He is being an arse..

A court order is strict so I've heard but thanks for your support.im taking him to court .