Do I have a romantic view of singleparenthood?

[jampots]

First of all Im not a single parent but am unhappy with my dh but thats another story. Anyway he was working away yesterday and overnight and came back this morniong and it has been so relaxing at home. I got loads done and everything seemed to tick just nicely despite being busy and knackered when i went to bed. He's away early part of next month for 2 weeks training and I am counting the days til then just so I can experience the freedom again. So please tell me am I just being romantic about it or is it really bliss?

And I found single parenthood knackering but better than being unhappily married.

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Must admit I get v. irritated by women with partners and no financial worries going misty-eyed at the thought of single parenthood. Personally I hate it and would much prefer to have a partner to share the load with. If there's any way of making your relationship work then I'd say stick it out - remember you'll still have to deal wtih him over kids, money etc even if you're not together. My XP is still making my life a misery 4 years after I left him.

Sorry bit of a rant but it's a sore point! I guess I feel that no-one appreciates how hard it is to bing up a child alone until they've done it.

I'm emotionally happier on my own than with my bullying ex-husband.
It is hard work & all the harder when your children are little.
Financially, I am worse off.
I am never lonely though. I felt lonelier when I was in the house with Mr Ar$e!

Being single is better than being in a bad relationship, whether or not you have DCs. Mind you, I think being single is better than being in a couple relationship, full stop: I am just not a couply person - and looking at all the horror stories on here, I do wonder why people are so desperate for couplehood in the first place.
DS dad and I used to date each other about 16 years ago, split up amicably and stayed friends. Then 3 years ago, had a friendly night together and - whoops - along came DS. His father visits us at least twice a week, does lots of babysitting and contributes £ as well: he is an all round Good Bloke and Good Dad. But if I had to live with him I'd kill him.
If I remember rightly, the OP has posted elsewhere about relationship difficulties, and wold probably be a lot better off without waste-of-oxygen DP though the business of splitting up can (I believe) be pretty gruesome.

I don't think it's romantic I think it's realistic. I hate the idea of being stuck in a relationship I hate that get's me down, that's why I broke up with my ex. I'm so much happier now, and pg with his kid! Haven't heard from him in months, but he's an arse and I don't care. I'm doing just fine on my own and I like, no I love it this way! I have an amizingly supportive family and a fantastic group of friends. Why would I want a sh*y relationship to deal with? I'm only 19, 20 when the babies here, I have the rest of my life for relationships and to be honest - I really love it being just me and my baby bean who's due at the end of may. I didn't allow my relationship with ex to get me down for long, instead i'm positive, at uni doing my degree and guess what else - HAPPY!
I don't get jealous when I see other couples, I just think good for them. But right now that's not for me, and I don't get lonely either cause I have an amazing network of friends and family around me. And I also have my beautiful little girl's arrival to look forward too, that's enough for me just now

Congratulations lwatkins. Esbee I am fine and we are all wihtout a shadow of a doubt better and happier now than in the days of bullying and abuse. I still have huge problems with X and although he has given me some (not much) money this month he has never given me anything regularly only for four months out of 18. I am happy adn the kids are happy and that is all that matters. We live in a sweet cottage now and not a huge rambling house where we all get lost and we do what we want when we want to.

Of course there are down sides but life is what you make it and the best thing is I am responsible for how good my life is now and know when things go wrong I can fix it.

Hi jampots,
I know you posted this ages ago but what you said rings true to me.
I am always more relaxed, organised, together, when dh is not around! sad as it may sound! And have had similar thoughts to yours such as: am i coaping so well now because i know he'll be back in a few days and i can have a break then? or is it because i am actually happier on my own and therefor more able to function properly when hes away?
sometimes i feel that single life would be less complicated/ stressful/ chaotic than our life as a couple.

hmmm...

so how you getting on anyway? made any decision re staying together?