New Boyfriend-how involved should he be?

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We've been seeing each other for about 6 months, he met my kids after about 3, but knew I had them from the start.

He gets on really well with them and seems to genuinely enjoy spending time with them.

My worry is that my 2 DD (aged 3 and 4) seem to be getting very attached to him. Everything is rosy at the moment, and I can't see it changing for now. But what happens if things don't work out, I worry what another male leaving their lives will do to them.

Have been there but unfortunately don't have an answer.

After my ex left, I had 2 serious relationships before I met current dp. Ds got attatched to one bf, but not the other.
He was upset when we broke up, but accepted it, and now at age 13, has known current dp for 8 years and seems fine.

It is such a dilemma, I know exactly how you feel, and can only offer sympathy, but no advice I'm afraid. You obviously waited a fair amount of time until you introduced dc to your bf, and I don't think you can really do much more than that.

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I objected to my xh introducing his gf after 3 months as kids attactch themselves very quickly (it also resulted in dd1 being upset for weeks) but in his case it would have been easier to avoid as they don't live with him whereas if your kids are around all the time they will come across each other earlier on as its moredifficult to avoid.

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