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Been talking to nice chap by email, now he's not replying since i said i have kids!

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frenchconnection · 13/12/2006 12:08

Thats it really! he was lovely to chat to , but then he asks what i do for a living,(i said i was a mum) and suddenly after days of emailing he goes quiet and totally vanishes....hmmm well anyway hes 4 yrs younger than me (23) so prob v immature anyway. Tosser.

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ThrockenAroundTheChristmasTree · 13/12/2006 12:09

tosser indeed - a bit of honesty wouldn't go amiss rather than just disappearing.

Onwards and upwards - you are better off without him.

expatinscotland · 13/12/2006 12:10

Yeah, tosser sums it up.

Onwards and upwards.

FWIW, my husband was 24 when we met and he was mature and wanted to get married and have kids, so it's not necessarily age-dependent.

NEXT!

nutcracker · 13/12/2006 12:11

It takes someone special to get invlolved in a relationship with someone who has kids, he wasn't special enough.

nutcracker · 13/12/2006 12:12

Or even special at all.

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frenchconnection · 13/12/2006 12:24

i know its not an age thing, my ex partner took on my dd when he was just 22, now 6 yrs later he is still like a perfect dad to her, its just that myself and him drifted apart..

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happyatlast · 15/12/2006 18:36

Think you found yourself a wanker my dear, best off out of that one!

helenhismadwife · 15/12/2006 21:19

your well rid of him, he doesnt deserve you, there are some decent men out there,

I met my dh online, we chatted for ages before we met in rl he loved 140 miles from me, 4 days later he moved in with me i had 4 kids from my previous marriage and he is 9 years younger than me

daisy1999 · 15/12/2006 21:31

at least you didn't waste too much time on him. Keep looking.

Think you're all being a little hard on him though, I wouldn't want to get involved with someone with children given the choice. Don't any of you remember what it was like before children, surely all things being equal most people would choose a partner without children!

expatinscotland · 15/12/2006 21:34

I agree, daisy. I didn't want to get involved w/someone who had kids before I did.

Fair enough.

But I did tell the person I'd been flirting with, gone out w/a few times, etc. that I didn't want to continue contacting them b/c I didn't want to get involved w/someone who had kids.

Instead of just ignoring them.

daisy1999 · 15/12/2006 21:37

yes I see your point expat but it is easier just not to reply isn't it. Not that I would have done that
Hey look on the bright side he may not mind about the children and may have been knocked down by a bus instead

dancinggirl · 15/12/2006 21:41

Hi frenchconnection

Please don't let a bad experience put you off! Ditto the other comments about him. Don't forget, it can happen that one guy dumps you like this and straight afterwards an MUCH nicer one contacts you .... so I'm told Good luck!

happyatlast · 16/12/2006 08:08

He should at least have the decency to tell her thats why he doesnt want to see her though, its a bit gutless to just ignore her, fair enough if he doesnt want to see her cos she has kids but he should bloody well tell her.

fredip71 · 16/12/2006 10:42

Hi French connection. You are better off without him. Plenty more fish in the sea... and mature ones as well! Good luck to you

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frenchconnection · 16/12/2006 13:15

hi, thanks for all your messages, i did hear back from him once after all this, but he sounded a little "cold" and now he has definitely gone AWOL for good.
Funny how keen and chirpy he was before, always asking when we could meet up etc, now a big fat nothing!
Dont worry i am not down about it! (but god, was he good looking - from all the photos!)

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mysonsmummy · 27/12/2006 22:21

they were probably not photos of him at all. tosser!

mysonsmummy · 27/12/2006 22:21

they were probably not photos of him at all. tosser!

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frenchconnection · 29/12/2006 11:05

Yes i thought that about the photos! anyway he got back in touch after a while away, all keen again, but now gone AWOL again!!! i was telling myself its cos hes only got email at work and not at home.... (and he hasnt been at work cos its xmas)..but god i really dont need this twunt mucking me around.. im gonna ignore him should he appear again...

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