So I am a lone parent to 5 children, ages ranging from 12 to 4. Three have autism, one of those has autism+adhd. They don't sleep well, which is to be expected and is part of their disability. I also have two who are not autistic. I do everything alone, all of the fighting for them re education and misunderstanding by schools, especially for the 12 year old who is academically very able and his needs are often overlooked or ignored. I have the 4 year old at home with me, because the nursery could not meet his needs. I am in the process of finding another nursery for him. I do all this on usually 4 hours of sleep, sometimes just 2 hours.
Their father sees them for around 4 to 5 hours on a Saturday. For this he takes me car because he doesnt have a car big enough, and often turns up late. Today he returned them late because he took them to see his family, which is nice for them and I am happy about that. So he had them from 1pm to 9pm. But in that time he did not change the10 year old's nappy, or the 4 year old's (they are both doubly incontinent) He also did not tell me he would be bringing them back late until I phoned him at 7pm, and then said he would be another hour.
It has been over a year since we split up, and he is still saying I am unreasonable for not allowing him access in the home, still takes my car, still is not regular or organised about when he sees the children, still expects me to just let him talk to the children on my mobile when ever he rings.
For all of his inability to organise seeing his children properly he blames me. He refuses to have the children over night. My 6 year old daughter wanted to see him again tomorrow, but he says he is busy. In reality he is hanging out with his mates and doesn't want to see her.
When ever her picks up and drops the kids off, he insists on taking things from the house and the whole process takes around half an hour. He often brings them back after a couple of hours because he has forgotten something.
It drives me insane.