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Ihateusernames79 · 15/11/2015 15:10

Hi all. I just wondered if anyone else felt like this. I suffer badly from stress, anxiety and depression. I'm on antidepressants and they help a lot. But I feel so up to my eyeballs bringing up my incredibly demanding and clingy daughter that everytime I try to go back to work it's only a matter of weeks before i feel so overwhelmed with all the responsibility and stress that I start to fall apart.

I keep leaving jobs that a few years ago I would've stuck at. I recently spent my inheritance money on a franchise business that I've run for a few weeks and I already feel totally insane with the stress of it. I'm so typically introverted and anxious that 'normal' interaction makes me exhausted. It's sensory overload that leaves me screaming for silence and alone time. I just feel like I can't cope with life. I can cope being a stay at home mum, but that job feels so complex and stressful that when I try to add something on top I lose my mind with anxiety.

I've recently lost my income support and housing benefit so money is at crisis level and I want to cry with the stress of it all. I wish I could find a stress free job that fits in with my daughter but I don't think it exists. It's all got so screwed up.
Any advice or experience?
Thanks!

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KatharineClifton · 15/11/2015 15:14

I think you need to go back to doc to get adequate medication, what you're on isn't working.

Are you earning above the threshold for HB? I'm part-time and still get some HB and CTS.

Ihateusernames79 · 15/11/2015 15:24

This is just my personality, I'm shy and anxious, always have been. The antidepressants have taken away the depression but I can't change my personality. I've always found noise and groups of people very difficult to deal with. I've always suffered with sensory overload. You can't medicate that, it's a personality trait. I don't think I'll ever be able to deal with life in a 'normal' way.
I'll be sorting the housing benefit out this week as they shouldn't have cancelled it. I just wondered if anyone else felt like this and how they got round the work issues.

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KatharineClifton · 15/11/2015 15:32

I don't want to sound smug, but I thought it was just my personality too.

It's your reaction to the sensory overload that can be adjusted, through counselling or medication.

RoomForASmallOne · 15/11/2015 15:33

I'm very similar OP.
Am currently signed off work with an anxiety disorder.
I work part time night shift which helps with not having to be social.
I'm a lone parent to 2DC and really struggle with reliable childcare.
Am applying for school time hours but no luck yet.
I've no answers for you, sorry..... It's very hard.

Ihateusernames79 · 15/11/2015 20:52

Thanks for the replies guys. It all helps. I just want to feel that I can one day return to work successfully. It helps to hear other people's stories.

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