When the other parent has the children......

[charlybear7]

Do you supply the equipment pram, car seat, bedding etc?

My ex is slowly starting to see my 2 children after being absent for months and I was wondering whether I'm expected to hand over all my equipment that I've bought for my baby and elder son or whether he needs to buy the things?

Just wondering what others do? Thanks

No way. He has his own.

Absolutely not. He's their father and he can sort these things on his own. It's not your responsibility. Don act as if it is.

Thanks for your comments!

I didn't think it sounded quite right! His solicitor who was so rude to me and is such a bully! I'm handing my 2 children over to my ex on sat for 3 hrs (baby only 1 hour) and I honestly think he'll have nothing to care for them including nappies etc!x

If he forgets wipes, nappies etc then he'll have to go and buy some won't he? Really, really don't allow yourself to be bullied into a situation where you are expected to supply things the DCs need when they are with him. Or where will it end?

The solicitor sounds vile BTW. If he is bullying you, you can and should report him to the Law Society.

I email ex sizes as DD moves up in clothes and shoes and that's about it. The first time he probably won't have everything he needs and he'll either buy it after or decide it's too much hassle and not bother with contact after a while.

You could pick up a cheap umbrella folding pushchair and make up a small bag of stuff (2 nappies, wipes, spare baby grow, sippy cup and suitable snack) let him use that and it'll put your mind at rest (I wouldn't include anything new or 'good' as my stuff always had a habit of not returning). It's more about knowing you've tried to make you DC comfortable than anything. But in 3 hours they won't need too much.

My ex took me to court this wk to gain unsupervised access to the children but this wasn't granted. But for a father who is desperate to see his children why on earth has he not gone and bought essentials for looking after them if he thought so strongly that he'd be granted to see them! He baffles me daily!