Would you ....

[Mistyaisle]

Would you go on a day out with the children and ex !
I don't have a partner, he does.
It's the woman he left me for, he hasn't asked her along.

I don't know if it's a good idea or a bad one if I'm honest.

No

Absolutely not.

Nope. Seems disrespectful of him to ask. You should build separate relationships with DC.

My ex used to ask me things like this all the time. It isn't good to get reliant on a friendship with our exes and although we can be civil we should forge links with others - rather than going over old ground.

No.

I'm not a lone parent, so maybe I don't understand what it feels like in that situation, but I don't understand why there are so many "no" responses. Surely it's good for the children if you go out for the day as a family?

No because I think most children secretly hope for their parents to get back together and this would give them false hope.

I wouldn't go on a day out and I would be pissed off if DP went on a day out with his ex and DCs. We do both spend the DCs' birthdays/Xmas with our exes, but often we will all be together.

e.g. for my DS's birthday we went out for dinner with my XH, his family, the DCs, me and DP. Sometimes I would do still that if DP weren't available, but only for a quick meal or special occasion and most often with other family members as well, not just me XH and the DCs.

For day trips I have taken the DCs out on my own or with DP and the ex has taken them somewhere separately with his GF, but I can't imagine e.g. Legoland or a trip to the seaside with my XH.

If you would enjoy it then I suppose no reason why not, as long as the DCs understand that this is not the two of you back together. However, I'm not sure I'd want to spend the day with someone who betrayed me so badly and I can't imagine his GF is overjoyed about him going with you either is that a good reason to go?