Party and xmas presents

[Onmyown1]

If your children are invited to a party when it's their dads weekend (so dad is taking to party) do you sort out the present and card or let him?
Also xmas presents for his family, do I bother, stop buying or just buy for ex mil and ex fil??

let him sort it out.

if dc close to grandparents and you facilitating direct contact you can help dc choose and wrap presents. if they only see them via your ex, let him do it.

Id let him sort it but with a prompt "here's the details for that party on sat - x is going to be 7 so you will need a present and card. Ds will be able to help you choose something"

Or it could just be my ex that needs it spelt out to him

I tend to sort of present and card for parties as it's easier on the kids that way - it actually gets done!! He's always reluctant to take them to parties in "his time" anyway - why be out and about with them when he could be sat at home in front of the TV?!

His family, he sorts presents. Or maybe he doesn't - but I don't. I do get presents for his gran though as she's ace.

I'd let him but my ex would be all over it.

If you don't think he'll remember/want to, may as well do it!

For Christmas it's really up to you- if you no longer have a relationship with them then let him buy them but if you do, then carry on!

I think lots of factors in the party..I hear quite often NRP refusing to take kids to parties on contact weekends.. So I would factor in..If he pays a decent amount of CM then yes I would probably pick it up..Simply because if he had to shop for another child( he doesn't know) as well as loose contact time it may well seem like too much effort and refuse to take child..

In law presents yes leave it to Ex..I would buy for Ex from children..

Thanks everyone. Have bought the present and card for the party as I see the parents at school and as my mom said you never know what rubbish he'd buy. His mom looks after my youngest 2 in the school holidays so will buy them a little something from me.