About to leave EA DH but don't know where to start....help

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I've made the decision I want to leave my EA husband, now I need to work out the practicalities. We have a 10month old, I'm due to return to work next month. I can't afford to move out and have no family nearby. Can anyone put me in touch with any organisations that could help? I haven't told DH I plan to leave because I'm frightened he'll cut me off financially. He's the sole earner right now (loves to remind me) and I don't want to give him the opportunity to spend our savings to spite me.

Child Maintenance Options - they will make sure you get the maintenance but you do now have to pay a one off £20 fee. Can you manage that?

Where you live, is it owned or rented? In both names?

There may be local charities that can help if you search in your area but, if not, just call women's aid and ask what they advise.

Well done on making this decision. I wish you the best of luck for the future

We currently live in rented, with both our names on the tenancy agreement. Our contract doesn't end until February, I can't afford to stay here on my own and can't afford to leave. I'm trapped, its feels awful. If I ask him to leave is there anyway I can get financial support to pay the rent? I don't know what to do..... If anybody has been in a similar situation please get in touch becuase its feeling pretty helpless right now.

I'm not sure how it works with you being on mat leave but if you become a SAHM then you will be entitled to help. You may still get help if you get back to work, it all depends on your income.

Enter your details onto entitledto.co.uk to calculate your entitlement and have a chat to HMRC about it too.

Ok call women's aid for help. They can give advice or your local domestic violence support centre.
If you can safely get copies of bank statements and financial info for what he earns do so, you may need these in the future.
Speak to your local council housing office for help. If you are fleeing DV they should house you but they can also provide deposits and help finding somewhere in private let.
In practical terms get together any documents, passports etc. Do you have a friend or relative you could leave important things with?

Thanks for the advice,i really appreciate it. I'm doing all the practical stuff i can while DH is working and the baby is asleep. Right now its a struggle to get through the day, without the shit storm that is about to hit.

I hate that i've lost my financial independence to him because i've had a baby. I have never relied on anybody before I went on mat leave, but did it to make the most of being with my bubba. I love my baby sooo much, its awesome being a mum. I'm just finding it really hard to understand how i'm suppose to get through the next few months. I wish i could fast forward to where we are separated, I have my own home and life doesnt seem soo complicated.

sleepdeprivedtigers i'd feel like a fraud getting in touch with womens aid, my DH has never been violent towards me. It makes me feel uncomfortable getting support from agencies that help women that have through far more traumatic situations than myself.

Don't feel like a fraud. I've dealt closely on a personal and work basis with my local DV centre and they are more than willing to help. EA and Financial abuse is just as serious. They won't mind at all I you ring I promise.