Feeling sad, everyone having 2nd babies

[twirlypoo]

I don't even know why it's bothering me, I didn't want another child ones hard enough! but everyone, including my ex is seemingly pregnant with their second child about now. It hurts and I feel so tearful but I can't figure out why.

Ds dad left when I was pregnant and so I've never had the lovely pregnancy, happy family shite. I think im jealous?

Just feeling like a cow for not being happy for people, and confused by my own feelings. It's horrid

I think it is a normal reaction, don't beat yourself up about it. It must have been very hard not being supported during your pregnancy. Anyway, maybe you will have a second child in the future.

You are not alone. My dd is 2. XP went when she was 3 months. The pregnancy wasn't happy. I'll be 40 next year, so I guess she'll be my only child. And EVERYONE is having/ has had baby #2. I get all broody and jealous. And I get a little sad that dd doesn't get a sibling. But maybe her dad will have more kids. And she has cousins. And nothing in the world beats her sneaking into my bed on a Saturday morning for hugs. You have your ds. And you never know what's around the corner. It hurts, I know. Be gentle with yourself. Sorry there's no advice from me, but thanks for posting. It's oddly comforting to know it's not just me.

My friends have all moved on to their thirds now. I remember feeling really broody when they all started having their seconds.

I got over it, I'm getting my life back on track after getting pg at Uni, I have a good job, DD (6) is settled and enjoying school and lots of after school activities it would be hard to do with a second.

Life with 1 is good, she is good company, we can have nice weeks a way, go to theatres/cinemas/ shopping/ camping which would all be much harder with 2 and 1 still in the baby stage. Academically she is thriving because she gets so much attention and help with reading etc.

I'm already thinking about adoption/sperm bank for baby 2 (and I'm 21 weeks pregnant with baby 1 and X just left!).

My Ds is 8 ..As a LP I can honestly say I find one works so much easier..When your DC is old enoough to be on sleepovers and your friends are still at home with their youngest you can feel a little bit smug xx

I understand how you feel OP. I didn't get the 'planning a nursery' or happy family life with my one and only baby either.

I would have loved to have baby number 2 and 3... but it wasn't meant to be.

Looking at my friends now with bigger families I'm glad I'm no longer in the baby stage.

I actually think some of the first born children of friends in bigger families (who are the same age as my DD) are quite baby-ish. Perhaps they are held back by having a younger sibling? It's not necessarily a bad thing, but as my DD is more mature for her age we can do more!

My broodiness for number 2 has now passed thank goodness. Good job really as my child bearing years are well behind me!

I'll always be a little sad about how it all turned out... but I really enjoy being able to do the things I do with my DD.