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Exes mum wants to move with lo

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Judofran · 27/09/2015 22:51

Bit complicated and it's my first post so apologies if I don't make perfect sense!
My ex (now friend, i'll call him f) has a lo who lives basically 50/50 with either parent. Exes ex (I'll call her m) has a new baby with her new man.

Okay so m calls f and gives him shit as usual over some crap cause she's on the blob. She drops into the arguing that he's not gonna have to deal with her much longer anyway as she's moving and her lo won't be seeing f much more. She doesn't say where she's moving to. Nor when.

Question- can she actually do that?? Can he apply for a prohibited steps order to stop her? Given that the entire time since their lo was born he's had minimum 3days a week with her, he owns his own place with room for lo etc and the relationship between lo and dad is as close as it could be... She surely can't be able to just say well fuck you I'm taking MY kid and moving and cause I'm the mum you get no say... Right??? Tell me I'm not going nuts here!

Any links, advice, anything would be helpful. I'm going to send him a link to this. She's a proper bitch, can't believe she's trying to cut him out of their kids life like this. Their lo is his entire world. She deserves a slap.

OP posts:
SurlyCue · 27/09/2015 22:54

m calls f and gives him shit as usual over some crap cause she's on the blob.

Hmm

Good fucking luck.

Waltermittythesequel · 27/09/2015 22:55
Biscuit
sugar21 · 27/09/2015 22:56
Grin
HirplesWithHaggis · 27/09/2015 23:03

Leaving aside your somewhat dubious language and assuming you're genuine, yes, f needs to take legal advice (expect to pay, though CAB would be a useful first step) and explore a prohibited steps order. Have a look also at Families Need Fathers (nb, not Fathers4Justice) who can give support and advice.

HarrietSchulenberg · 27/09/2015 23:05

Ignoring your offensive terminology, I'd say that you need to advise your friend to get proper legal advice. I doubt he can stop his ex from moving but he can get a formal access arrangement put in place to ensure that he has regular contact.
You might find you get more helpful advice if you aren't so offensive.
Hope this helps Smile

VimFuego101 · 27/09/2015 23:15

Yes, he can apply for a prohibited steps order. The court will look at all the evidence to decide whether it's in the child's best interests to allow her to move. At this point, though, it's probably best you wind your neck in with the nasty comments about his ex, in case she uses them as a reason why she doesn't want to continue to live near him.

AliceDoesntLiveHereAnymore · 30/09/2015 19:02

And to be fair, if it's his child, and not yours, encourage him to step up and do his own checking on things. He's an adult - he needs to be proactive.

And yes, your language leaves a bit to be desired. You seem a bit overinvolved in this.

TurnOffTheTv · 30/09/2015 19:04

'On the blob'? Are you a 14 year old boy living up north in 1990?

corlan · 01/10/2015 14:26

She deserves a slap.

You sound absolutely charming. If your friend is anything like you I can see why his ex is moving.

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