Where do i find strength...

[Tatiana11235]

So i have a 4yo girl and i need to find strength and motivation to stay with her dad. I keep on saying to myself i can soldier through and keep her family together because two parents together is better for a child. Lately though i struggle to put a happy face on and she can feel it. I don't want my child to come from a broken family but god knows i can't carry on living with him for much longer. What I'm really asking is this - can i justify breaking my child's family and leaving her dad just because i can't be around him anymore? Is that selfish?

I'm not a lone parent so I can't answer from experience but I would say that more than anything you owe your DD a happy mother and a role model who makes the right decisions. Two parents together isn't always better, especially if those parents are miserable, your DD will pick up on it. Can you talk to your OH and see if you can resolve the feelings? Or try counselling maybe if you want to try and stay together?

Hi Tatiana
My childhood memories are pretty much tainted by my parents arguing & being very unhappy. They 'stayed together for the kids'. My dad finally left when I was 11 & I was so relieved.
Me and my exP split up when my daughter was 17 months old. I didn't want to bring her up surrounded by misery & animosity. Being a single parent is both tough and amazing. My daughter has two parents who love her loads & can put their energy into parenting & having fun, not arguing & feeling shit.
If you're unhappy, she'll sense it & be unhappy too. folow your heart, love.

One happy parent and a child/children is MUCH better than a child/children with two rowing parents and a toxic atmosphere in the home.

Those children will only go on to have unhappy relationships in the future.

Why are you defining single parent families as 'broken' that does sound quite prejudiced.

Staying together is not best if your daughter grows up witnessing a bad example of a relationship.??The best thing for her is to grow up in a happy home, that maybe two happy homes.