Pulling my hairout!! Stonewalling ex

[onanotherday]

Exh moved away to live near his family,200 miles away. He had dcs for a week at the beginning of summer holidays. No seen them since and phone calls are adhoc. Dd misses him terribly and having counselling for attachment and anger issues. I have asked him repeatedly if he will commit to regular calls and planned visits. I have emailed and text but no reply. Any bright ideas or do we just have to suck it up....

Just suck it up. Distract the kids. Don't even mention him until he has manned up n set a date to visit. If he cared he wouldn't have moved.my son's dad is the same sadly so i understand, sees him 3 times a year for a day if that - i just find i have to stay really positive about him n make a big deal for my son of how much daddy loves him to travel all that way etc, take lots pics when they are together n he calls him most mondays. It is really shit as you need support too, disgusts me how absent parents get away with it n get all this praise n thanks for when they do see em, whereas our job is thankless. Sorry you are going thru this n especially sorry for the kids. Just remember it's quality not quantity when it comes to what kids remember.... sorry you got involved with such an arse.one more text to him now sayibg kids missing him n you look forward to jim getting in touch then dont give him more time energy or thought. Ball is in his court. Shame the balls aren't

get the counselor to help. you cant change this, you can only support her thru it. lessen expectations.