How to you have a social life, when you don't have anyone to socialise with?

[rickman]

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have your friends got any single friends?

where in the country are you?

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what about netmums? i've met a few mums from there. you just put your basic details on the message board and other mums near you will contact you. that will help with just meeting a wider circle of people. netmums.com i think it is.

Join a club of some description or take up a new sport. That was what I did when I arrived in Australia toute seule - surfing lessons... Didn't necessarily meet kindred spirits, but stopped me feeling too lonely and homesick.

Where in Kent?

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Take up ballroom dancing or painting or something then. The main thing is to find an activity where you will have a common interest (or can feign a common interest) with other people. Otherwise, organise a meet-up with other single mums in your area??

Yeah I know what you mean.I mix with work people and mummy-friends but at the w/e I don't have anyone to go out with as they are all doing family stuff.

but there are mums like me out there who have a dh that works weekends so we too are often alone and bored on a weekend.

im due in january with my first baby and already on my own... and i worry about the lonely times ahead because everythings all about women with partners/husbands or single people without children...most of my friends either dont have children or have teenagers and they've all completely vanished since i've been pregnant - is this normal that friends just disappear when you're pregnant?

couldn't you start by persuading one of your family orientated friends to have just ONE saturday night out? most of mine are gagging to get away from domesticity from time to time - whereeas for me its SUCH a long time since I've 'gone out' I'd be petrified ...

just feel quite paranoid cos friends have been really strange since been pregnant

sorry but mine did though they didn't like my xh too so that didn't help!

Snap, snap, snap. The worst thing for me is that I don't drive either. I am meeting a mum on Monday who replied to my posting on Netmums, so that is a start. Netmums has also proved helpful in the past for me, unfortunately I moved away and lost contact with previous people I met.

I am thinking about going to NCT coffee mornings, maybe even joining, as I know someone who has made loads of friends through that. Wish I could give you more ideas, I am looking for PT work, so hope that will help me. Good luck! Where are you by the way?

I met some nice mums through NCT coffee mornings - there's a number you can ring to find out groups in your area. You don't need to be a member of the NCT. Also going to things like baby yoga / massage if you have little ones, Surestart do free classes... I found that having a baby made me much more confident to talk to other people with babies (in a kind of "we're all in on the great secret" now way!) or maybe I just didn't give a sh*t anymore about being embarassed cos I was too tired to care!!

Hi.. I have been on the other site mentioned too and in a lot of ways is easier to navigate and chat on.
i have met a few local mums now which is great. Go on the coffee house part to chat on threads like this. They are easier to view too

Join your local gingerbread group for single parents - you can then meet people in same position as you and make social arrangements. Good luck. Be brave and get out there
And an evening course is great too

Thats a shame Rickman you are in Kent and I am in Romsey,Hants. Same here. i get bored and lonely esp. at the weekends and want to go out when my 6 yr old ds goes to Dad. Pity we cant meet and go out together...but just too far. Is there any one in similar situation living nearer Rickman or mE ? ? ??

I have the same problem Rickman, don't really have any friends, and the ones I do have aren't single anyway.

The kids don't stay over with their dad and tbh probably never will, but my mum is always offering to babysit for me.

I have decided that I just need to meet more people and so am looking for a job and will perhaps do a college course too.

Could you do a course ? I know they don't run n a saturday but you might end up meeting people whom you could then go out with.

I'm in south Cumbria if anyone is here

All my friends are bloody useless, two recently broke up with there partners and came running back to me and now there back with them I dont here a word for weeks...fed up with it completly !! would be nice to have a friend who made the same effort as I do

Good grief it is already February and I have come to the conclusion that I will never have a grown up date again in my life. I am a widow and have three children who take up a lot of my time and a job that takes up a lot of my time and a basset hound that takes up a lot of my time so I probably will never be able to meet a man in a social setting it is all very sad and depressing feel like a 44 year-old virgin again and would not mind taking out my dancing shoes.

shame i am going out with a mnetter this evening. you could have come along and slept on floor of myhouse.