Advice, facing separation

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Hi. I think relations with H have degraded to the point of separation.

His parents live 4 hours away and he will go back and live with them. I am NC with his parents for various abusive reasons.

Our children are 2 and nearly 1.

Will a court force me to let him take them up north for contact every weekend or Eow? As opposed to him seeing them where we live now?

Can I prevent his parents seeing them? They don't have their best interests at heart.

I am sick with worry about this and at the moment it's keeping me with him.

1. Yes, eventually - every other weekend more likely than every weekend and potentially away for holidays as well.
2. Not unless you have evidence of them being a risk to the children.

When is eventually?

Aren't they too little to do that journey twice in 3 days. Every fortnight?

Wouldn't it be better for their dad to stay near us?

No evidence. Just things like them smoking around dd when she was recovering from bronchitis, bullying texts to H that sort of thing.

So sorry to hear this. I hope you're okay. I really think you need to talk to a lawyer. Normally the first consultation is at a discounted rate and I think it will be the best money you ever spend.

Agree with speaking to a lawyer, and also CAB are handy and possibly Women's Aid if he's been abusive.

Don't let the fear of what might or might not happen in the future keep you in a shitty situation now.