I'm so lonely and miserable

[psssst]

In the process of splitting from DP. We're still living together but we're seperated in everyway apart from our address.

Life feels so shitty, sitting here on a Saturday lunch-time with fuck all to look forward to. I'm bored, lonely and miserable. I know the logical reaction to that should be to think of ways to do the things I enjoy or meet new people, but I just feel sooooo....I dunno, like I've run out of enthusiam. Don't know how else to describe it.

Anyone else relating to this?

Really sorry to hear you're having such an awful time Could you manage to get out for a walk this avo? It's such a lovely day (well, it is here). Sometimes just some sun and fresh air can help lift your mood.

Just think though - good point about being single means you can have first crack at Brad when he and Angelina split

'bored, lonely and miserable'...it's dire isn't it?

I doubt there are many people who haven't felt that way at some point.

You know what you have to do to change it it seems...I don't think there's any harm in wallowing in your misery for a bit and then making a conscious decision that you want to make your life better and getting out and doing stuff you enjoy.

I think one of the problems is that when you feel that way, it is such an effort to change and try and be more happy and confident so that you get out there and meet new people etc. Don't try and rush it if you don't feel ready but do try and make small, little changes - even if it is something as simple as getting out a film that you know will make you laugh.

Thanks tribpot

Just getting DS ready for a walk down to the shops. It all just feels sooooo boring right now. sighs

Thanks FIS - I think that's the frustrating thing - I know what I need to do, just don't have much motivation to get on with it.

Off to the shops now...

awwwwww pssssst all you can do is feel the feelings and let them pass by ... as foxy says just do little things to try and help yourself feel better.. it's good you're getting out, it's a beautiful day here, i usually find that helps.

i do know EXACTLY how you feel if it is any consolation.

take care xx

I am feeling exactly like you right now. Not really able to offer much advice as I still don't know how to make myself feel better yet.

Your not on your own though.

Thanks girls. Didn't get to come back on here yesterday.

Nutcracker - sorry to hear you're feeling the same way.

psssst, still living under the same roof makes it incredibly difficult to move on and it's difficult enough separating and living apart.

I can completely relate to feeling bored, lonely and miserable (I am currently getting divorced) but I think separating is rather like the grieving process and impacts on each of us in different ways and on different time scales. There is no right way.

Personally, I think being bored is a good point to be at because boredom can be quite motivating.

Be kind to yourself. Take small steps. Maybe kill some of that boredom by thinking about what you want and planning how you are going to get there. Perhaps try to see your new found circumstances as an opportunity and build on that.

Best wishes