Can we get back on track??

[Finnsmummy90]

I have a 3 year old DS with my ex, we were very young when he was born and although we had been together a long time before falling pregnant, we couldn't take the strain of going from a young care-free couple to parents and living together. We broke up when DS was 12 months, 4/5 months after we split I began seeing someone else and a little while after that my ex told me that he had a one night stand with a girl who was now pregnant..

Fast forward two years (all of which he has been a brilliant father to our son) we are now thinking about getting back together. We are both older now and get along great and I want to give my son a chance of his parents being together. I am not angry or upset about the other baby as we were not together and I was dating someone else but I don't know if we can get past it and be happy together now?! I am between a rock and a hard place, DS loves his dad being around and we have always been so close but I feel like things aren't so special now there is another child in the mix!!

Has anyone else had anything similar happen to them???

Don't let having a child together be the reason you want to try again. You need to do it for you. Family time together is all well and good, but when it's you and him, it needs to have substance. Also have clear boundaries so you don't confuse you DC.

I've tried getting back together. It was hard and quite unfulfilling. I tried as I felt I owed it to myself.

My friend had exactly this situation. Ske has since got back with thefather and had a second child. Apart from a small separation while she was pregnant the second time, they are very happy.

You will never know unless you try. However, if you get on brilliantly and can parent together well, make sure a relationship going sour wouldn't stop that.

For me the reason its not been successful is it's very difficult to 'date' someone you are familiar with. You cut the honeymoon stage outshine contributes to your feeling growth. Plus I'd dated others in the time we split. I'd had the butterflies the ripping clothes off fun, but I never had it with him. Plus it was just s logistical nightmare. Good luck to you as I you never know unless you try