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2little2late2change4now · 27/04/2015 23:58

Hello, please can someone advise. I need to go to hospital because I'm pregnant and in pain and bleeding at 18 weeks. Dad's dad will not come and be with her and I have absolutely no one else to ask. What will happen if I call an ambulance? Does anyone know? I'm terrified of losing the baby but I'm terrified that dd will be taken in the night by a total stranger

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wigglylines · 28/04/2015 00:02

I don't know, but didn't want to leave your post unanswered.

Is there a friend you can call?

queentroutoftrouts · 28/04/2015 00:05

Do you have a friend or relative, even a neighbour that your friendly with I'm sure they would be more than happy to help in an emergency. If it comes to it I'm sure the emergency services would understand and would take her with you and can find a friendly nurse to sit in a room with her maybe. I'm so sorry what a frightening situation to be in, good luck I hope all is well x

twirlypoo · 28/04/2015 00:07

Ask a neighbour but failing that just get yourself to a&e, the nurses / paramedics will make sure she is ok. I hope your ok Thanks

passthewineplz · 28/04/2015 00:08

Do you have a neighbour, friend, family member who can help?

How bad is your bleeding? Have you rung triage for advice? If you have to go in and stay in hospital I think the hospital would contact local social services for you and a foster carer helps out with any other DC.

Please don't put off going to hospital, your DD x

Cluesue · 28/04/2015 00:17

You need to go to hospital,take Dd with you if you have too,they will sort something for you,hope you'll be ok.
I'd love to kick your DD's dad in the bollocks for you

queentroutoftrouts · 28/04/2015 00:24

Are you ok??

PurpleShoes69 · 28/04/2015 00:31

Poor you Thanks and Angry to her dad.
How old is DD?
You will need to take her with you failing any neighbours etc, which will be fine. Good luck.

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2little2late2change4now · 28/04/2015 02:14

We are at the hospital and dd is being a star considering how late it is and how tired she must be. They can't find what's causing the pain and I can't go home until it's gone. Her dad is a class A dick and we won't be having further contact, he refuses to stick to contact anyway and has had chance after chance so he can get a court order. Unbelievably he borrowed our shopping money yesterday after we agreed to be friends and help one another out, I will never be that mug again!
My parents are travelling 120 miles and missing work tomorrow to have dd.

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passthewineplz · 28/04/2015 02:32

Hope everything is ok, bleeding in pregnancy is quite common. I bled during pregnancy, and my DD is 4 1/2 now.

I just read that your ex dp is messing you about, is moving to be nearer your parents so you get some support an option?

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2little2late2change4now · 28/04/2015 03:38

The bleeding has stopped but the pain remains a mystery so they're keeping me in. My parents have just collected dd. I thought ex had realised that even without being with me he had to be a dad but apparently not, I'm just controlling his life.
I don't want to move dd and I away from everything we know, I love where we live and so much is changing and she is struggling to cope without a big move too. I do have friends but no one I feel I can go to in the middle of the night but I will speak to people and make w back up plan because it's apparent now that he won't be around for dd - his loss, she deserves better, arse!

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QOD · 28/04/2015 04:51

How old is she?
Hope the pain settles, you're in the best place but things move a bit slow out of hours in the hospital normally eh
Keep us updated

Nolim · 28/04/2015 06:07

I hope that you and your baby are ok op. Agree that making a plan for emergencies is a good idea.

cestlavielife · 28/04/2015 09:42

yes you need a contingency eg paid childminder who could if needs be take her overnight.

cestlavielife · 28/04/2015 09:42

hope you feeling better soon and you ok

twirlypoo · 28/04/2015 09:58

I hope you are feeling better soon op Flowers

I had pain and bleeding throughout my pregnancy for what it is worth and DS is now 3 and a total nuisance bouncing around downstairs.

I was alone when pregnant too, and I found it much easier to cope with the situation if I expected nothing from my ex and made all plans as if there was just me to consider. If he has ever exceeded my expectations it is a bonus, but it means that I am never left up shit creek relying on him either.

I really hope your ok and you are discharged soon

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2little2late2change4now · 28/04/2015 10:20

Thank you, I know I need to not rely on him. I guess I'm still in shock that anyone can treat another human so badly. Oh well, it's done now, once an arse always an arse I think. I'm just a bit sad I suppose, it isn't meant to be like this. :(

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twirlypoo · 28/04/2015 11:49

No, I know, it isn't meant to be like this at all. BUT, i promise it will be ok in the end.

You will be stronger and more resilient than you ever would have thought you could be. It is sad, and recognising that, and grieving for what you wanted are normal and healthy - but then you have to pick yourself up and kick some ass for those babies of yours.

If you ever want a natter or anything then just yell. I've been in your shoes and it does get easier Flowers

Starlightbright1 · 28/04/2015 13:18

Hope you are ok...This is not the time to be making any decisions. focus on getting some rest and hope pain subsides soon

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