hiya im new on here and dont have many people to talk to and literally one real friend with children.
anyway I was wondering what to do about my new baby's dad.
I have a two year old by another man but he isnt allowed near him for other reasons.
my 6months old dad has finally left two weeks ago and is moving over 3 hours away tomorrow .
we have been on and off after his affair during my pregnancy to which he left me and got engaged!! however when our son was born he decided he loved me after all and wanted to come back. since then it has been awful! he doesn't help or do anything with the baby at all unless I make him!
he has a daughter which he will do anything for when he has her and I mean does everything including baby feeding her at two years old. he has bathed him once for a picture! and only even put him to bed once because he had no choice as I was out.
he has finally left and we arranged to have him every other weekend. i wont let him have over night yet as our son has a "cough" as he puts it when in fact he is quite unwell where he daily stops breAthing because he coughs so much and is always choking to the point he is sick! I said once we have seen the pediatrician and know what's going on I'm happy to let him have him over night.
however he was supposed to have him for the day yesterday and said friday night he couldnt and wanted today so because i want him to be involved I said ok yet he hasn't spoken to me since friday night?! so hasn't seen him today either what do I do going foreward I dont want to be messed about as it isnt gold for our son but I feel like he isnt bothered about him untill something happens *I.e he has medical issues etc. it seems like he only want to know when he can get outside attention from saying he can't see him or he's I'll etc etc :( I don't know what to do I'm so annoyed