Exs who slagged you off to your child

[adelecarberry]

My ex is a snake. He cheated on me despite me giving up my nursing career to care for him. When he recovered and returned to work he left me i didnt realise he been having an affair. My son has asked questions and he tells him he dumped me and couldnt wait to get rid of me. Its complete lies. I got married and also a daughter. He is in another relationship which is long term.i dont understand why he has to make lies up. His behaviour was unacceptable and i dont want my aon to think this is acceptable to treat women this way especially as my exs dad did the same thing to his mum! Anyone else have to battle lies from exs?

In my experience children often become estranged from a parent if they continuously denigrate the other parent. Children come to a decision in much the same ways as adults by weighing up the pros and cons. If you react to what your son tells you about things your ex or his new partner has said it will just be more confusing. What you can do is focus on reminiscing together about events you enjoyed together before the family split by sharing photos and stories, and generally teach your son the life lesson of making up his own mind rather than believing everything he is told.