No contact on dds birthday from her father!!!!

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It was my dd's birthday this week and she has had no contact at all from her father!!! Not even a simple text. His parents came round the day before and he was invited but said he couldnt!!! His birthday is also a week before hers and she sent him a text of off my phone and he didnt reply to that either!!! She is visiting him this weekend and will be celebrating it then but surely a text or phone call on her birthday at the very least wouldnt have hurt!!

Sorry for the rant.x

How old is your dd? Would this text be to her phone or to yours? Does he often text or call her?

She is 9 and doesnt have her own phone. And I shouldnt be surprised really as there is no contact between visits from him.Just thought he would contact on bday.x

DSs dad never bothers either, nothing for the last two birthdays or Christmas's. It sucks but you just have to be there for your child and explain that it's the problem of the other parent and they are the one missing out. Disgraceful.

She hasnt even mentioned it as far as she is concerned she is seeing him this weekend and he will give her her present then. It just gets me he says he cares about his daughter but cant be bothered to contact her on her birthday!!x

I can understand your annoyance ...However as daughter isn't bothered let it go and be thankful he doesn't interfere.

I got a letter on DDS birthday this year telling me he'd spoken to a solicitor and was starting legal proceedings to restart contact.

After nearly 2 years he could've just text me as the lack of contact was his choice.... Twat.

Don't stress about it OP, mostly I find its either laziness or a power trip. Hope your dd isn't too upset

She wasnt bothered by it and we had a great day. She had a day at his today where they did the usual over the top rubbish but she came back happy which is the main thing.
MishMooshAndMogkai I know how you feel, her father texted me on christmas eve to tell me he was getting married!!
I vented on here starlightbright1 as it meant I could let go in real life and I wont be saying anything to him as its not worth it.x

Thank you for all the replies. I never say anything to dd but it amazes me that this man that says he cares about his dd can do half of what he does and not even contact her on her birthday. He didnt contact her on christmas day either until I contacted him from her!!
Oh well, as long as she knows I will always be there for her, as harsh as that sounds.x

That's shit of him. I'm just glad it didn't spoil her day.

So am I. She likes going to see her dad but i think even at her age she realises we wont have any contact from him till the next visit ( unless it benefits him). I used to contact him but have given up as dont get a response, again unless it benefits him. I texted him on his birthday from her and didnt get a reply.

Like you say TendonQueen just glad it didnt ruin her birthday.x

Didn't get anything at all from my son's dad last year (he was 11). This year, he called at 7.45pm. Last year, no card or present. This year, £20 about a month later. He didn't want to put it in the post as he wanted to see DS open it

It just amazes me how men think it is okay to behave this way!!!x

And some women too.It's just shocking!x