Hi help needed. Im at my wits end. my controlling ex has given the maintenance directly to the kids. They are all teenagers and ive tried to explain that this money is to keep a roof over their head, feed them etc... I already gave them some of the maintenance each to pay for clothes. I was hoping they would understand and give me the money back ( the youngest has said she dont want hers as she sees what her dad is doing). I could take him through the csa and get more off him than he currently pays but the picture he paints of me to the kids is that I am greedy cow and had affairs etc... I never did but I now even have my daughter saying if you have no money you cant go out!!! I only actually went out now and again but it feels like he has rubbed his negative behaviour onto her. Im just dont know what to do anymore. x