My daughter is 20 months old .I have a sole residence order for her granted less than a year ago by the court.her father has a contact order for 4hrs on a sat and Sunday once a month he lives 250 miles away.we have never lived together and he has never cared for her other than the 4hr slots listed which were 2hrs first off for 3 months in a contact centre .may I add at this point I have never stopped him seeing her even before I applied to the court .I just didn't agree with his terms of taking a 3month old baby to a train station 120 miles away and picking her up a week later once a month. On various occasions he threatened to take so I took him to court to finiliaze arrangements. Since Nov his first unsupervised visit with child he has continually done what's best for him rather than what's best for child.he brought his parents his sister and children to the first unsupervised contact .All of who she does not know .bear in mind the order was passed in a way for father to build up a relationship with child.he lied about bringing others and broke the order and took her out of the designated area.2nd visit Dec he brought his girlfriend and her 3 children all strangers to my child again and lied .3rd month January he came alone.4th month he brought 8 family members in 2 cars including girlfriend who he said she hadn't met and once again lied.i do have proof of the lies via pictures and various texts etc. In the last few weeks he has had 2 solicitors letters acting for me .addressing the court order is for him and whilst she should see family the time is primarily for him and it needs to be kept to a minium.also address breaking the order location and also about him telling me 6 months of random dates he will be having her , telling me it's all booked in caravans and hotels for his family and regardless of plans I already have I have to cancel my plans .its worth saying at this stage all these 6 month visits are off the regular routine in place .so naturally I have made sure daughter was free for the regular date and made my own plans.he was offered his routine date and one alternative all which he has turned down saying he's coming on the dates he said and will go to the police each time to say I broke the order solicitors letters are proof of the offers and date changes being off routine.this weekend my child is sick temperature among other symptoms we visited the doctor Thursday and was given instructions to follow and bring her right back if it gets any worse.so I let the father no and advised before he left on Saturday to contact me to see if child was well enough .He said no he's leaving Friday morning and he's coming regardless and I can't stop him.child was up most of the night . I told him before he left on 250 mile trip child not well enough for contact and we can rearrange for following weekend if she was better.he said no I couldn't stop him coming in my house to see her. I do feel intimadted by this man as he refuses to acknowledge solicitors letters .paid little attends ion to the order location lies and deceives on all but one visit .He sent me several texts Friday saying I couldn't stop him etc.. He then went into my child's doctors demanding to see her file .believing I had lied obiously ,the doctor phoned me and I said tell him it should help me as iv told him exactly what u said .He then drove past my house several times Friday .Saturday he text and said he was coming and if she was ill he would see her at the door.i said no iv told you the contact has been cancelled .you will note the if in his text.so he would come and then disagreed and will cause more upset something neither myself or my child needs when I'm trying to tend her and the if also implies he didn't believe the doctor either .I told him if he comes banging and intimidating I will ring the police. He came banged etc..I ignored the door and rang the police .child was asleep thankfully .Police said they can't stop him sitting outside all day if he wanted to .But they gave both of us a log number and he left .He told the police he would be back tomorrow to do the same thing.he was after the log numbers to say I broke the order .which was broken on reasonable grounds.i left my house Saturday and come to somewhere safe as I live alone to minimise upset to child .He text on the Sunday saying he was coming as arranged .I said how child was and iv told him at least 5 times the arrangements are cancelled due to illness .He said he will still be there at 11 .no doubt to collect another log number.what do you do with someone like this iv spent 5k so far on legal fees to get to here .I have offered an alternative to the cancelled arrangement which i also neef to add she has not been ill for one of his visits ever before .I told him before he embarked on the 250 mile trip.where do I stand on it .It was discussed in court that the plans may need to be changed if child was ill but it wasn't in the order .I have all evidence to back up all I say after proving what a lier he was to the court last time I was fully aware I need to retain everything.its causing me a lot of upset and concern any advice or experiences of topics listed would be greatly appreciated .