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Foxy800 · 15/03/2015 10:41

Hi my dad gave me my mother's day bits this morning.One of which was a homemade card she had quickly done at her dads last weekend.Which of course is lovely as it is from her but my question is he let her write it was from his girlfriends daughter too.I feel quite uncomfortable by this or am I overreacting?(am unwell so could well be overreacting)Have thanked her and had a chat making sure she understands that the other child isn't related to me.Just feel her father should have stopped it.Thanks in advance.

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Foxy800 · 15/03/2015 10:42

My dd even not my dad!!

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jovialjulia · 15/03/2015 11:35

Could she have done it before he saw and then too late?

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Foxy800 · 15/03/2015 12:22

She said he saw her do it and it's in pencil so could have been rubbed out even if she had done before he saw.Not sure why but doesn't sit comfortably with me.x

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jovialjulia · 15/03/2015 12:35

Maybe he didn't want to make her feel as though she'd done something wrong. Little people don't start out with hangups so they think it's normal to do things like this.

My dd had a friend over whilst making me a get well soon card once and wrote the friends name in too. Granted that's not quite the same as Mother's Day is for mothers but if she's small she probably just wanted to include her little step sister. I would feel a bit uneasy too, not least because it takes some of the special out of the card, but better for your ex to have not made a fuss once it was done.

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Foxy800 · 15/03/2015 12:44

Any other card I don't think I would feel so uncomfortable about and dd is 9 so understands I'm not the girlfriends dds mum.And dad would take have been thinking of anyone's feelings I can assure you.It is offer display with one she made at school as dad didn't buy one with her like he normally does and I have said a huge thank you to her with or making a huge deal of it apart from reminding her they both have their own mums.They haven't been together that long so cant imagine girlfriend would be that comfortable either.x

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jovialjulia · 15/03/2015 14:41

Ah if she's nine I doubt dad saw or had anything to do with it. Sounds like see just been a tad thoughtless Wink

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Foxy800 · 15/03/2015 16:15

I did think that but she said she showed daddy but just going to leave it.Thanks all.x

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Starlightbright1 · 15/03/2015 19:36

I would say to her what a beautiful card..Why did you include .... As she has a mummy to send a card to...Maybe the other child included your daughter on the card to her mummy?

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Foxy800 · 15/03/2015 19:45

That is basically what I did say to her and I doubt the other girl did.She is a lot younger and would have needed help to write hers and I doubt my ex would have let her.The card is on display.x

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VoyageOfDad · 16/03/2015 18:48

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Foxy800 · 17/03/2015 19:47

Thank you for all your replies.Am not comfortable about it bit am going to leave it.x

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