Pregnant and getting depressed, any words of wisdom?

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I'm five months pregnant but a lone parent. I have a 3 yo as well. Work is rubbish, I may not be able to return after mat leave due to bullying.

My ex doesn't speak to me anymore, he still sees our 3yo each Sunday but other than that he doesn't speak to me - we had some minor rows and he ignored my requests for help when I was ill during pg, so I won't be chasing him bastard

I'm getting quite depressed, I have friends but they're all happily married. I don't want to bring everyone else down, as it was my choice to keep baby, but I'm scared about how I'll cope in late pregnancy and post birth with a newborn and 3yo. Hopefully 3yo will go to nursery a couple of mornings a week. I'm finding it lonely being pg and single, I'd have loved to experience having a baby as part of a happy couple but instead I spend most of my time worrying about work/school applications/childcare etc.

Anyone have any words of advice? Thanks

Ps ex had said he would help with dc after the birth etc, but I think this unlikely now. I'm unlikely to have much other help, maybe one friend who has offered to stay and help a couple of weekends...

Hello, sorry that you are feeling bad. I don't have much useful advice but didn't want to leave your post unanswered. Do you have family who you can talk to or who can offer help? Have you spoken to your midwife? There is also charity called home start which might be able to give some practical help when the baby arrives.

I'm in the same situation.

Please pm me if you would like to chat.

I have an older child (13 today!) with one ex partner. Now have a 2 year old and a baby due end of June with the man I married in November. My marriage was over 4 hours after it begun.

I work full time, but have now taken time off sick prior to mat leave starting in 4 weeks.

I've never known anyone else in the same situation IRL, but reading MN lately, it seems we aren't alone. There are a few of us with young children and pregnant alone. :)

hi another one here. I have a 6yo DS, a 14 month old DD and I am 20+4 with DS2. you're definitely not alone

I'm the same too. 11wks and have dd who is 2. We are facing homelessness too. It's nice to know I'm not the only one but infuriates me to know that so many men can just leave in these circumstances. Ex DP is of very little help and support here too. I'm awake at this stupid hour with the terror of it all. I know it doesn't feel like it but once these babies arrive they will fill our hearts and time and the loneliness will fade and we will get stronger little by little x

I was a lp from being 9 weeks pg with dd2. Dd1 was 2.5 then.
I found it lonely and a bit stagnant as when you end a relationship we tend to try and move on, reinvent, meet someone new and you have to put all that on hold with a pg. exh was an arse then as well.

It's one of those situations I had to make the best of. Starting with making my own decisions because I could and just focusing on dd1 and me and preparing for the baby.

I would get nursery sorted ASAP. If you are in the uk you can get 15 hours nursery for your 3 year old I would be starting that asap and grabbing a few hours to yourself while you can.

I did feel isolated but a new baby is good for making friends. Find out about baby groups and get a routine half planned for when the baby is born.

It does get better. Dd2 is 2.5 now. I won't lie it was hard work when she was born but you adapt and it gets easier. I found a lot of supprt on here and it helped me take control. The credit crunch threads gave me so much sanity!
Keep posting x

Thanks, sorry to hear I'm not alone. I'd love to be able to experience the pregnancy with a supportive partner, joy at the birth etc. It's hard when all you can think of is work, bills etc though.

Detective sorry to hear you're off sick, I fear I may be the same soon, though I have four months until mat leave so may have to be a long sick period! I think the stress from work being bullies would justify me going though.

Another one here too. Got a 4yo DD & 12 weeks with number 2 on my own. Work full time too.

I'm going to make myself do baby groups and that, even though I hate these things. Seconding the getting 15hrs of nursery sorted now.

I verge between really happy about having another lovely child & feeling depressed too. I guess we have to keep ourself "up" - although I find it an effort.

How is everyone today? X

Another one here. 22 weeks pregnant. Had been trying to work it out with the Dad but its never going to be. Also have 12 year old from a previous relationship. Quite worried about the first few months with newborn as had PND last time and am having c-section so won't be as mobile as would like to be.