Online dating/chat sites - full of weirdos and nutters?

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rickman · 23/10/2006 16:10

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rickman · 26/10/2006 10:29

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thefreakyflumpsmum · 26/10/2006 10:46

Dont give up Rickman ,I too am a single mum and didnt get out much.I sterted going on dating sites(only the free ones) and yes they had lots of weirdos on there or men just after one thing but there are a few decent good men on there too.Just follow the rules when chatting or meeting up with them,ie dont give them address's etc ,always meet up in a safe place.The decent,ordinary guys I chatted too also said theres alot of weird women on there too lol so its not just the guys.Just make it plain what you want out of it and go from there.
I found my bloke on there ,hes intelligent,gorgeous and great with my kids...we've been together a year now and hopefully moving in together soon....

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rickman · 26/10/2006 10:57

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kikki · 30/10/2006 17:09

I has been very useful for me to read all the threads on this subject. My friend(happily in a relationship and always get lots of offers as shes a model) tells me that if she were single she would go on a chatroom or dating website to try and find love. I have told her that it is not something I am comfortable with and have never been on a chatroom etc before.(Mum's net excluded!). I just don't think it's for me. I am really emotionally ready to date again and I certainly don't need any more complications at the mo'. She was going on and on, saying her boyfriend(who is nice, well connected and balanced) has lots of friends use on-line dating agencies who have good jobs and are nice but have no time to go out and find love. It all sounds a bit clinical to me. She painted such a rosy picture of it all(despite never experiencing it) that I started to think it was my only option. Having read all the threads I think it is best that I stay away from them.
I think I attract enough w**kers in person.

Schokofruhstucksflockenhasseri · 30/10/2006 17:58

rickman, Ive been using online dating sites for a couple of years now, and they are good for a laugh. I havent met anyone yet though.

I definitely wouldnt give away my phone number, or invite them round to my place (yes, two have suggested a first meeting in my flat!!!)

I think loads of them are married.

Xenia, I take issue with the Oxbridge thing. I used to apply those sort of criteria, so limiting!

lovemykids · 16/11/2006 20:52

Took a deep breath and went for it - I've just started using dating sites! Yes, you do get lots of weirdos etc but you can usually tell by their emails to you and those that hint about sexual things etc. on their first chat with you! (unless of course you want to chat about those things straight away!) - you just cut them off or delete the emails. Most sites you can put a block on those people you don't want mailing you again. I've met up with two guys now - not at all like their photos!!! and definitely no 'chemistry' - but they are lovely people and I keep in touch with both of them still now as friends - it's great just having texts/mails (and the occasional night out!) on a regular basis from the opposite sex! So I think it's definitely worth it. I also keep in touch with someone else who makes me laugh so much I nearly wet myself each time and I haven't laughed like that since before I was married! Met up with him for a coffee (with my sis as he chats to both of us) and we wouldn't touch him with a barge pole but he's a great friend and we can ask him anything! So they aren't just about meeting 'Mr Right' - it's about making friends too.

I usually let them mail me first - that way I know they are interested and if they fade away or don't really show an interest in their mails to you, then they aren't really interested in the right things - so move on and just wait for the next mail to come along!! Don't get too hung up about things or take things personally and just see what happens! I've had nasty replies cos I won't mail them back or I just delete without reading etc. but men like that just aren't worth bothering with anyway! The longer you're on those sites you tend to get the hang of things anyway!

I'd say go for it - what have you got to lose? Just have SAFE fun!

Gonna ask a bit of advice myself about them - but will start a new thread - cos I kinda like a guy abroad!! ;-)

nikkie · 16/11/2006 21:51

I have looked on a few but I live on a peninsula and there seems to be a lack of blokes in this area

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