News updates about children to/from other parent

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Do any of you have in place contact with your ex whereby you each provide the other with a weekly (email) update on the children - activities, school, how they are etc.

Or do you use another system eg home home contact book?

Or do you leave it to the children to communicate.
TIA

We email, text or talk on the phone or face to face as and when things come up. Definitely not up to the children to communicate.

We used to have a diary but to be honest it became another way for him to vent his anger so now we have nothing.

He knows nothing except what happens on his days.

He doesnt tend to send me information on dd when she has been with him but i text him with info about appointments, parents evening and anything else relevent.

I'm the same foxy I update him as and when (appointments, milestones, minor illnesses etc) but when she is with him...nothing. It's so frustrating to text asking how she is to receive "fine" as a response! I need detail! He doesn't ask how she is when I've got her (6 days of 7) but if he did I would say more than "fine"

Tried texting but ex simply denies ever receiving it. Contact book disappeared the first time it went to his house. He refuses to listen to ANYTHING I try and say to him, so I can only communicate via the Mediator or Solicitor, which is ridiculous and expensive. I try to keep him informed of everything, but he normally denies being told and insists I am keeping all info from him.

Texting and face to face when we see each other

Although as others have said when he has them and I ask after them all I tend to get is fine, it's also rare he contacts me to ask after them

Queen sorry only just seen your reply. I have given up sending texts to say she is ill as he wont reply. If it affects time with him I would and I would tell him when I next take her to him but as he doesnt reply to my texts or anything unless it benefits him. And like afreshstartplease it is very rare he contacts me and when he does its not to ask how dd is!!

There are online facilities to help. For example: www.2houses.com

It's a way of communicating without direct contact, it might help?

NAR4 have you tried e-mailing? I don't text, just email so all communication is documented, "discoverable" in the legal sense, and you can set it up to get a receipt when read. I still use the solicitor for important stuff but this is much cheaper for day to day.

OP to answer your question, very little - essential stuff about health goes via email but otherwise there is nothing (both ways) or communicated via the children. I quickly learned that my endeavours to keep a dialogue open were being used to manipulate and control me so stopped non- essential communication. I hope you are in a better place.

He doesn't open emails from me creative