help. ...ex being a d**k

[fattymcfatfat]

ok background. .
me and ex together had ds, split went to court, idiot me then took him back had dd and now pg again, and we have split! wont go into too much detail
anyways ex is meant to see the kids at mine yesterday, has to work so I agree he can do bedtime. he comes, all is well, ds (6) goes to bed and ex tried to kiss me and grab my boob! I pushed him away and told him he is no longer welcome in my house. I feel so violated! he has abused my trust

What you have said is right. Door step or public place exchanges now. Communications only about the children.
Keep your responses cool, but polite. My most used phrase is 'that is none of your business'.

he doesnt see dc at yours. fulls top.

the problem is if ge doesnt see them at mine he will take them to his mums and I don't want my dcs there as there have been problems with his family members so either way im in an uncomfortable position (family members left bruises on ds hence court case)

then a contact center at weekends day time.

if child protection issues are being investigated re him being in charge and allowing his family to bruise them .... so until its assessed whether he is able to have them and be responsible (eg around who is around them) then contact centre only.

its been assessed they denied it (its a couple of years ago) and because I was stupid and didnt phone police I had no proof. as I said its already been to court. and hes been through contact centres etc. there is a court order regarding ds, but I got back with him after that like a fool. ive got dd and one on the way as well now and cant afford court costs as they no longer do legal aid for contact cases