I've changed name because my ex knows I use mumsnet and I don't want him linking this with other things I've written should he come across it.
I have a problem regarding my ex and it is eating me up. He has our child a couple of nights a week and I am happy with this. They love each other and I want them to have a good relationship. But I can't stand the idea of his mother seeing our child, of her having any influence over him.
There is a huge amount of background here: she is utterly toxic and controlling and caused endless problems in our relationship. My ex knows what she is like (he is the scapegoat to her) but will not have a word said against her at this time. Before we had our child we talked about how we would not let her have the kind of control she has with her other child's family. I was not prepared to live my life on her terms, but now I cannot do anything about it. I was keeping her at bay but know she is never away when my ex has our child, she never gives them any time alone.
I know there is nothing I can do but it is eating me up, the thought of her with my child, interfering with his routine and forcing her opinions on my ex. I am becoming increasingly bitter towards my ex because he knows exactly what his mother is capable of yet is doing nothing to protect our child.