Dh and i separated last year, we have 2 dcs aged 12 and 8. We are in the process of sorting access etc through court. Back at the very beginning I offered 3 weekends out of 4 from friday eve until sunday eve. Also 2 hours one eve a week. That worked fine at first but recently ex has started texting most weeks looking for extra time. He'll text on sunday half an hour before they're due home and ask to keep them an hour late or on a friday morning to ask if he can take them early. Now i always say yes and I dont mind flexibity, as long as it works both ways. But it doesn't. He refuses any flexibility on his part at all.
Also tbh I'm sick of hearing from him. He has been warned by the judge that he is only allowed to contact me about access or if its absolutely necessary to do with the dcs due to a history of controlling behaviour and dv, and I feel these texts are just another way of him trying to exert some control. Would i be wrong to just tell him to stick to the agreed times and stop contacting me?