Facebook... The good life for some?

[Blakey3166]

Hi all,
Has/is anyone else feeling a Facebook fatigue of all their friends on there having such a great coupley/family life, especially in the lead up to Xmas ... Or am I just being a right ole Scrooge?
I'm a little tired/envious etc of a handful of friends/family, constantly posting every hr of the day how great their life is, kids are, Christmases are going to be!
I work full time, have very little time, money or fun.i lead quite a dull existence of work/child rearing,housework.
A particular lady on there(family) posts hourly from 9am at being at yoga, tagging the places she's lunching or coffee, then posts regarding healthy eating etc and finally normally rounds off the day with a post about how great her hubby /child is etc etc.now I know I can hear you cry.... Just delete her.but I feel everyone on there like that at min.
But then I do think is it just because I'm in a bit of a static situation that I feel like this, no real massive blue sky's on the horizon, shouldn't I be happy for them etc.
Anybody else feel this way

[Chottie]

Blakely good for you :) onwards and upwards into the future

[Chottie]

• Blakey - sorry

[Vaudeville]

I've just deactivated my fb for over the next month. I don't begrudge any of my friends being happy & having what I don't but after having to take a week unpaid leave due to dd1 being ill - which would have been my entire Xmas present budget & having to tell them I now can't afford what they originally wanted - it's probably healthier not to put myself in position where I will feel even more crap.

[Blakey3166]

Ah vaudeville- that's a bloody shame , more than a shame.
It's exactly what I mean. Also I really don't begrudge any of them but I can't stand it being rammed down my throat hourly .

[Wotsitsareafterme]

I binned fb 18 months ago. No regrets! It was mostly because of the post after thatcher died- I don't need to know how dim some of my friends are but also the smug posting. And the fact that people expected to read about my divorce on Facebook!

[cauliflowerfairy]

This is a very funny and comforting thread . I deactivate constantly, I have to for my sanity.
Blakey - a singlet penguin with a winter scene- cutest thing ever!!! I might change mine to a single penguin bar. To which you're all welcome to drop by - drinks are on the house!! The sign hanging over the door will read 'p-p-pick up a penguin' haha

[alicemalice]

I have unfollowed so many people, I hardly have anything left in my feed. .

Seriously though, I remember last xmas, the first after my divorce and honestly being on FB was just awful for me. All the happy people, photos, thanks to 'darling hubby for spoiling me'.

Don't begrudge people happy times but being a lone parent is tough at times and I think I just shouldn't have gone on there.

[cestlavielife]

not a bad exercise to dedicate a day to posting all the good things like
"so looking forward to xmas just me and the kids, no hassles"
"teacher praised dc again today for being so nice"
"good day at work, proud of myself for doing all the providing"
"lovely cuddle with kids tonight, it's so worth it "
"dc brought home xmas card they made at school, "to the best mum ever" awww"
"fab evening at home snug with dc watching fav dvd"
"feeling sorry tonight for someone who doesnt realize they have a choice and life can be good on your own"
"wondering why couples always argue at xmas? "
"so glad it's just me and the dc, another great weekend doing the things we love! "
etc

[alicemalice]

Love it, cestlavie

[Philoslothy]

My life looks quite lovely on facebook because mostly it is. It has been unbearably hard over the last week or so and for that reason I have not really been posting.

I would have thought that people post less when times are hard.

If my friends seem to be having a great life I am happy for them.

[FlorenceMattell]

I call it Bragbook. And the more insecure you are the more you brag. Love thr friend who has done all her Christmas shopping and made christmas sauces already etc etc. I hide all the most annoying people so I don't see their posts.

[Philoslothy]

I don't get why we can't just accept that your friends may have lovely lives, why the need to pull it apart?

[Blakey3166]

Ladies I'm so glad it's not just me then feeling that way occasionally.philoslothy, I'm not pulling apart, as I say, I'm happy for them, but I don't need to hear hourly.equally they could decide/think that for themselves.
I think it is some kind of validation thing for them. Actually the same as mums net at times but I believe here, You get given the brutal truth sometimes which is great. Whether good or bad, an that is defiantly more real life, not just the good bits!

[TwiggyHeart]

My Dsis in law posted the most amazing pics of their hols, looked like they were having a fab time....in reality they are having counselling and on the verge of divorce, all is not always as it seems. However, I have loads of friends who post lovely pics/statuses and I know they are genuinely happy and just want to share with their friends/family.

[Lovetheleaves]

My sis in law posted up pics recently of a family day they had and pics were all beautiful with comments about how lucky she is etc etc. I was at said family day and all they did all day was snipe at each other and the atmosphere between them was horrid. It is just a snap shot in time. I can't be bothered with it since a friend said she just stalks people on it. Have not been on in couple of years.

[SilentAllTheseYears]

All the world is a stage, and that's so true about fb, you are seeing an act which presents what people want you to think. She's probably really unhappy.

[Wealldancelamacarena]

I have something to share : my best friend is moving to Italy for a better life. Better weather, less rent to pay (compare to London). She is moving for good in 2 weeks but she just came back from a trip there. All she did was boasting, showing pictures of the house, the beach, the food she ate, the amount of booze she had in her fridge (cheaper booze there).. And yes I'm happy for her, I think it's a great idea and they are going to make it but boasting about it ?? We always said we couldn't bear boasting people ! I use Facebook to post funny stuff, group activities...but that's it ! I just hope it's just because she is exited that she is like that and that she will calm down !

[MyIronLung]

I don't begrudge anyone anything but I do regularly feel sad/down that I can't provide half of what other (2 parent families) can for their dc and themselves. What I do manage to provide for my dc is through having nothing myself.

I'm going to deactivate fb I think. It just gets a bit much when someone on there is on their 4th, very fancy holiday of the year (think Florida, New York ect) and the only reason I have afforded the XMAS presents I have for my dc is through saving every spare penny since August.

My life is fucking hard all of the time, fb just makes it worse I think.

[ImTakingTheEssence]

I deactivate quite alot because I get wound up reading other peoples bullshit.

I have a couple who post daily pictures of themselves together everywhere they go. I was once at a boring car show that they were at and they made it out to be the best day ever. Later on I went on facebook on to see them posting pictures beside the hotdog van and on the bus and posing next to cars etc.
Clearly they get more out of everyday life than I do and can turn a simple event into a photo album.

I used to get jealous of what I seen on fb but its only ever the fantasy life and the best bits.

[Mummyoftwobeautifulpoppets]

I'm thinking of deactivating too, it's just nauseating at times!

My ex (nice one that I was engaged to years ago, well before having my lovely DC and before the idiot men) just got engaged, super smug post, which I think is more unusual for a man?
Anyway the ring is damn flipping ugly if you ask me, I may be single and alone, but I have far better taste haha! bitter? Noo!

[PuffinPie]

Yes campingfilth!