What would happen if you were in hospital? AIBU

[MikeTheShite]

What would happen if you were admitted unexpectedly to hospital?
I've been admitted since Thursday and no signs of going home today.
My parents have my dd aged 2, who has been at nursery Thursday and fri but now off for the weekend and I know they will struggle with her (not in the best health either of them)
I'm thinking of discharging myself because I can't handle the stress they are under.
My exp has PR for dd, seeing her for 24 hours twice a month. He's refusing to help with dd whilst I'm in hospital saying he has a job and life and that it is my parents responsibility to have dd. I've been a lone parent since pregnancy.
I'm too tired to argue and too confused about the last few days to work out if iabu.

Ah, well, if he has a week off, doesn't that solve your problem?

He can come and get her and have her for the week. Frustrating to have to pay for the unused nursery place but gives you a full week to have a proper rest and you're no worse off than you would have been if she'd gone to nursery.

I hope you feel better soon.

Let him have her, it takes the pressure off you and gives your parents a break.
As much as you probably want to tell him to fuck off, there is no point in cutting your nose off to spite your face.

I agree let him take her you need to get better.
If that collapses don't drive her to contact next week. If he took that to court as a breach the judge would laugh at him especially as he had previously declined to help you and had lots of notice of contact hiccups. Seriously don't worry about that part.

Well he didn't have her after all- he refused.
I've now been discharged (against medical advice) and he's wanting me to drive her halfway to him tommorow which will not be happening.
Urgh!!!!' (To put it mildly)

Tell him to do one.

Have you got it in writing that he won't come and collect her?

I have indeed

I just read this and see your update, I'm glad you told him to do one, end of day your too ill to drive and in worst case you could always get copy of your notes should he try kick off about court or anything.

Hope you get some rest and get better soon, very naughty of you to discharge yourself but I'd be a hypocrite as would of done the same.

I thought hospitals had something in place to support single parents, although I assume that would be social services and emergency foster care so obv not ideal.

Your ex sounds like a nightmare

I don't have any contact with my dds dad but am lucky that my mum would be supportive in an emergency situation.

I hope you are feeling better now

Poor you

Why is it court ordered that you do all the driving?

He foes drop her home.

Apparently the driving is deemed to be fair.
Luckily my family were fantastic